I had an abortion & am glad about it - what's wrong with that?

Question

1. i didnt know i had bipolar at the time & could hardly look after myself.

2. boyfriend - an irresponsible drunk (big mistake i know, i know).

3. the poor child would not have had a stable or happy upbringing

4. i would never have had the chance to improve my understanding of life so much as it is now. if i had a child now i have the tolerance, understanding, etc

5. i was terribly lonely as a child because mum had to work as a waitress 24/7 to look after us. that's not a fun childhood for anybody.

Answer 1

Absolutely nothing is wrong. It was your choice, and you had the right to do what you thought was best. Why bring yet another child into this wretched world if he or she would've just been unhappy?

All these people here crying "murder" didn't even know you or your potential child existed before they read your question.

Answer 2

Yea it sounds like ur life sucked....ur mom could have had an abortion with u and then u wouldnt have had to go through what u been through. Do u know how many people wish they could have a baby, but u killed urs and took the easy way out when u could have suffered the consequences of laying up with a drunk and gave ur baby up for adoption.

Answer 3

It was a human life. Thats what was wrong. regardless of what it had to go through, it was its choice not yours. I hope you repent to God for your sins through Jesus. Its not my place to judge. I realize you were scared and alone so no one should hate you, especially not youself.

Answer 4

You murdered your own child, that's what's wrong with it. All the excuses in the world won't change a thing.

Answer 5

Good for you.

You made the decision that was best for you, and apparently for your child.

I'm glad that you're not crushed by it, but its sad that it had to be done.

Be careful out there. Get on some birthcontrol, if you haven't already.

One day you'll be ready on your own terms.

Answer 6

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, you were not ready for this and as you said unable to give the child the kind of life they deserve.  People who say otherwise as far as I am concerned are blinkered and tend to have had a good life themselves and have no understanding of someone in your situation.  If you believe in anything then believe that your child will be born in the spirit world and will be loved and treasured by family and friends that have passed and will understand why you had to do this.

Answer 7

While I personally am against abortion, you made the decision that you felt was right for you and it is legal whether I agree or not. From all you stated above it does seem you made the right decision, but please use birth control if possible. It's there to prevent unwanted pregnancies and stop the abortion/anti-abortion debate.

Answer 8

Nothing is wrong with it.I think you made the right choice for YOU.your body,your choice.I wish more people could realize what you did,instead of bringing children into unhappy homes or abusive homes.The pro life people will always attack,because it's happening to someone else and not them so they do not understand.Your happy you did not bring a child into an unhappy home.I think that is very smart of you.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with that.

I am much happier to have a teenage mother have an abortion than go on welfare for the rest of their life, and their child never have a chance of possibly becoming anything and being another welfare user in the future.

Not saying that's what you are, but that's what the trend seems to be. You can do a lot better for yourself without a kid holding you down.

Answer 10

your murder your unborn child

but maybe saving him/her from the consequences of your lifestyle

Answer 11

if u were sexually abused and got pregnant, but got an abortion,i would understand.  even if u had bipolar, you would've been able to make the decision to hav s*x or not, you knew the consequences. and there are so many married couples out there that want a baby so bad but are not able to. you didnt hav to raise that child,you could've gave birth and give the new life to a couple who will raise him/her like their own child! there's no excuse for getting an abortion in your situation...be resposible for your actions.thats my opinion, but if u feel what u did is right, then thats what you should believe.

Answer 12

Absolutely NOTHING... a clump of bloody cells is NOT a baby... so don't let the right to life crowd try to give you heat about your decision because it was YOUR decidion.

Answer 13

nothing is wrong with that.  it sounds like you made the best decision for you.. and that's what's important. don't listen to anyone else just because you "should" feel badly.. just stand by yourself and know that you'll have children when and if the timing is right for you.

Answer 14

omg u killed a living person !!!!!!

Answer 15

You have made a decision that you felt was and is the right one for you.  You do not need to justify it to anyone.

I have seen many young women torn apart by decisions they have made (either in having an abortion, having and raising their child or adoption).   Any choice you made would have been difficult.  I am glad that you were able to find a solution that worked for you with minimal emotional distress and hope that you have made a good life for yourself since.

Answer 16

im not going to be a cyber punk here like most of these posters, trying to make you feel bad.

im sure it was  a gut wrenching decision.

but..1) you didnt know you had bipolar? or you did, cos this line is confusing, eithr way it sounds like you may not have been ready to have a child.

2) ...better luck next time

3-5) focus on making you happy and raising you before you bring another one who depends on you.Nothing worse than a baby depending on a child.

Even tho Im sure to get bombarded with thumb downs, I feel you made the right choice for you. Good luck with your life and decisions you make throughout.

Answer 17

I think you made the right choice, i don't understand how you can be happy about it, but that really doesn't matter, what matters is that you use birth control from now on.