I had cancer and husband became cold and distant.?

Question

I also found out he has another bank account and a mailing address. He goes out with his golf buddies (that is what he told me) and comes home after 1:00 am. To make a long story short, I threw him out got a lawyer and filed for divorce. I am so proud of myself, the cancer taught me that I am a survivor. My question is how does the lawyer get him to start paying the household expenses, child support (2 boys) and etc., prior to actual divorce?

Answer 1

i think there is more to this then meats the eye.maybe you changed? after learning of cancer?

Answer 2

there's usual a fair bit of communication between lawyers, they know the laws, ropes, what needs to be dealt with now and what can wait.

   But that doesn't mean, you get to sit back, let the lawyer know your interested and watching, ask him what's next, ask him how that is settled and when it's an important issue to yours/kids lively hood ask immediately he actually will expect it and you need to know to plan in the very near future. Tell him you wish to be kept aware of all court dates and be sure to miss none, even if someone says otherwise.

   You are paying him, remember that, your buying his services, so you need to speak up and be questioning him with everything. Ask for a meeting and a rundown on the steps and procedures your going to be put through and ask to be kept up to date.

Answer 3

My heart goes out to you.  It sounds like your husband was a class-A prick and you are better off without him.   If he didn't care enough about you to remain faithful to you, getting him to pay his fair share now will probably be like pulling teeth.  Your lawyer should know all the legal ins and outs of getting him to pay.

Answer 4

Your husband sounds just like mine, I went through chemo and radiation alone, except for my mom. Then he'd go around bragging on what he did for me. I walked to the grocery store carried everything home in my left hand because with my pic line I couldn't lift more that 10 pound with my right. Get his coffee in the morning, cook, clean, everything, my mom did her best to help, but she's 79 years old. It was disgusting. He recently moved out and into another woman's home. I say good riddance. Life is to short to be miserable, especially during the time you have cancer. Stay in contact with your lawyer, keep asking questions, if the lawyer isn't available to speak with you ask for someone who can take the time to explain all that's going on. I hope and pray you stay in remission, God bless!    

Answer 5

Your lawyer will have to draw up paperwork concerning these situations and  get the court to issue orders for your soon to be ex to pay child support etc.  Good luck and congratulations on surviving cancer.