I had the same dream again?

Question

Last time i had this dream i was lying on my side half awake half asleep and something grabbed me and i woke up screaming.....about a week ago, i had the same dream and it scared me to death...i was lying on my stomach and that same thing tried to grab me by my hoodie, i woke up, although this time i struggled to do so.

my brother recently died at 28 and every since then i have been freaked out. i am 21 and losing him was very surreal and difficult for me. i feel like i am now haunted. i think of him every day and sometimes awake in the middle of the nite painicky and terrified with thoughts of HIM.

his death was avoidable and i feel like i didnt help him enough. i feel guilt.

my question is, am i developing a psychological disorder, i am freaked out to sleep alone...am i just scaring myself or is something going on...does he want to tell me something? i feel like i am being tormented by this. it will not go away. i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Has he been buried yet?  I know that this sounds cold-hearted.  But there is a reason for this.  It sounds like your guilt over losing your brother has caused you to have these nightmares.  If you want to put an end to these nightmares.  You should confront your brother.  Go to his gravesite and ask him what he wants.  Tell him you are sorry for not being there for him.  Once you come out and apologize to him,Perhaps these nightmares will go away.  You are putting his death on your shoulders.  It isn't your fault.  You did what you could.  It's going to be difficult for a while to say goodbye.  That's another thing you need to do.  You need to say goodbye to him.  Let him know that he will always be there.  You loved your brother.  Let him know how much he meant to you.  He wouldn't hold a grudge against you.  I'm sure he loved you.  You've got to stop carrying this burden.  He's up in Heaven now.  And one day,You and him will be together.  But hopefully not for a while.  I hope I have helped you.  If not,I'm terribly sorry.  What was his name?  I'm sure he's up there in Heaven smiling down on you.  You must confront your fear.  Have a one-on-one with your brother.  Then and only then will you be able to get some peace and some beauty sleep.  Have a goodnight and God bless.  Bye for now.

Answer 2

Tell the ghost (your brother) that you're sorry for anything that you may have done, and tell him he needs to go back to where he came from, say God needs you. Tell him that you love him, and will never for get him (just reassure him). If this doesn't help, contact or research a local paranormal psychic in your area to come out and help you.

Answer 3

This is not paranormal. You are missing your brother which is natural. I am sorry for your loss.

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Answer 4

It sounds like anxiety over the loss of your brother.  Please go and talk to others who can help you get over your feeling that you didn't do enough to stop his death.  Everyone has free will.  It is likely that  there was actually nothing at all you could have done to stop him.  You may have delayed the outcome, but you can't stop what is going to happen, the world doen't work that way.

I am so sorry that you are in the situation of having to lose a loved one and feeling helpless.  But what has happened to your brother is over and you must carry on.  Hugs to you!!

Answer 5

i dont think hes try to scare you, maybe start praying before bed

Answer 6

I had the same problem after my grandma died...i felt like someone was always watching me and i couldn't get any sleep because i kept having nightmares....one night i was listening to my ipod on my bed...i fell asleep with it on and woke up the next morning to find that i had slept interupted all night long....while your subconscious is focusing on music...it can't focus on dreams as well...try putting headphones in and going to sleep...it might help you.  :)

Answer 7

It is quite normal to grieve over a loved one, and this often includes dreams about the person, in all sorts of ways.  I repeat, this is quite normal.  But if the dreams are worrying you, and they are causing additional stress, please, see your doctor.  There are a range of things that can be done, from psychological counselling, to pills to help you to sleep more soundly.

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Answer 8

I know i'm not a psychologist..but you should be going to somebody lyke that..instead of asking people on yahoo answers...{ not being rude or anything..but seriously go to professional help}

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear of your brother's death.  However, his death is in no way related to your bad dreams.  Well, except for the fact that you are psychologically upset by his death.  You are mourning.  This is natural.  Please keep it that way.  While suggesting he is trying to reach you from "the other side" may be a good coping mechanism for those who are still alive, it's not healthy to require supernatural solutions to real life problems.