I hate being an only child my mums still young so its not like she cant have kids?

Question

i just hate being an only child you would think that it wouldn't bother me because i get what ever i want but it can be so lonely at times i just want someone to tease make fun joke around with of my friends are like Jade your so lucky your an only child because you get the house to yourself you don't have to share with your siblings and i just think trust me if you really was an only child you would hate it I'm the only child in my family well on my mum's side i don't no much about my dad's so there's no children my age that i can joke around with talk to about boys you no teenage stuff the youngest person in my family is my aunt and she 26 so we don't really have anything in common the only thing we have in common is are taste in music my mums always at work so we don't have much time to talk which sucks anyways my question is how can i get over this only child thing??

Answer 1

You need to find a group to belong too.  Families are great, we are all sorry you dont have brothers or sisters or cousins, but you could join some youth clubs.  Churches often have one, scouting, school sports teams, etc.

Answer 2

My husband is an only child and he hates it too. He always said he would marry someone who had siblings so that he would have a chance at being an uncle (I have a brother and a sister). Really, you just have to learn to accept yourself and your situation as they are and know that your parents are trying to do what is best for the family. Being an only child allows them to focus more on your needs and the family's needs.

Try joining sports or clubs that get you involved with other teenagers so you can make some friends and have people to talk to about boys and such! Really if your mom had a child now, they wouldn't be anywhere near your age and it would probably end up being like the same difference between you and your aunt.

Answer 3

If your mom is not having any more kids, I would suggest a dog. Great companions...although you can't really talk to them about teenage stuff but they do help to ease the sense of loneliness. good luck! and if no pet is allowed, stay busy, pick up a hobby with kids your age.

Answer 4

Well Jade, even if your mom did have another child right now. You still wouldn't have another teenager to talk to and joke around with. Think about it, if your mom got pregnant today, she wouldn't have the baby for another 9 months. Then, after that, you would have to wait at least another a year or two before the baby understood the basics of what you were saying. This meaning, you would end up having to watch the baby, like a babysitter does, rather than than talk to him/her as a friend. With this in mind, I'm going to guess you're a teenager or almost because you said you have no one to talk to about "teenage stuff". Well let's say you're 14, because I'm not sure how old you are. If your mom had the baby in 9 months, by the time the baby was your age, you would be around 30, putting your sister/brother in the same scenario as you're in now.

If you want someone to talk to though, make friends who you can really trust and talk to. Go to their houses and invite them to yours. Talk to them on the phone, have a little "boyfriend", go to a party, get a pet (like a dog), join an extra curricular activity (dance, gymnastics, softball, track, tennis, or whatever else you can think of). You're young too, you know, and you're only going to be a teenager once. Keep your innocence as long as possible, and just enjoy what you have while you have it. Before you know it, you'll probably be a mother yourself.

Answer 5

Perhaps you should suggest to your mum fostering another girl? Doing one of those aunty or big sister programs, so you could have someone you could spend time with on weekends and do all the girly things. I'm sure you could talk to your mum about it. I'm really sorry to hear that, I have 3 siblings and wouldn't have it any other way.

Good luck!