I hate being at home. im never happy, always angry. ?

Question

I am 16. I HATE living at home. My parents treat me like a 12 year old and all my mom ever does is nag. The only words out of her mouth are things that are just nagging or something negative. I am NEVER in a good mood when i'm home, always angry and upset. As soon as I get out of the house, however, i'm fine. I work over 30 hours a week and when I get home my parents still won't let me go out. I cant stand it. I work to make money so they won't have to pay for things for me and yet i am still stuck here. I really just want a week where I can leave but if i ask for that they might not let me come back. Any advice?

Answer 1

Count your blessings!  My father used to beat me until I couldn't walk and my mother once hit me across the face with a leather belt just as hard as she could swing it!  You'll graduate high school in just a couple of years AND if your parents will fill out a financial aid form you at least have the possibiltiy of leaving home to go to college. Save your money for that escape and your future.  My parents didn't want me to go to college so they refused to fill out the financial aid forms.

Answer 2

You should be glad.Look at all the other girls your age doing what they want for the next 2 yrs. and see where they end up.

Answer 3

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im assuming you can't work more hours or else you would

im kinda in the same siituation

im starting to go to church more often

then school is coming up

and then band

and then im getting a job

and then i have homework

and flute practice

i might take piano lessons

life is going to be VERY busy for me

but itll keep me away from dad and brother

':[

if you need someone to talk to im here

most suggestions are wayyyyyy easier said than done

Answer 4

I felt the same way as a teen.  At 18 I moved out.  My mom and I have a good relationship now but it took time (I am 23 now).  Do you have anyone else you can live with, like your grandparents?  Know that theese feelings are normal and one day you will get out.  For now put up with them.  Try to focus on school so you can go to collage and be more successful than them.  I did.

Answer 5

Dear Chelsea,

              You are 16 and still young, These are the best times of your life. You will not get any of these minutes, hours or days back. Enjoy it. It may not be a bad thing your parents treat you as though your 12. Maybe some trust issues. Talk to them. When I was younger my mom started me out with a 9:00 curfew and if I did come home no later than 9 the majority of the time, after awhile she made it 9:30 and 10:00, eventually worked up to 12. Propose a similar plan and see what happens, May be you can come to some agreement, if you approach them with less anger and hostility. Don`t burn your bridges, You`ll regret it, its a big difficult world out there. You may need them some day. Good luck

Answer 6

endure... or buy a d***o :)

Answer 7

Stay put - I promise adulthood will be with you soon.

Im 39 and my mum still treats me like a 12 year old - I think its a parent thing.  So leaving home wont improve your situation.

Dont leave home too soon - I left home at 16 - and it isnt as easy as you think or would guess.    And just think college will be here soon followed by university - things improve then I promise.

Deep breath - and ignore all the things that annoy you.

xx

Answer 8

mi momz like dat too..nd i get upset dat she nags me nd constantly critisizes me..I HATE IT..but hopefully one day you'll get to be independent..YOU will..ppl like us dat r forced to b stuck @ home nd never go out..will get the chanceto br free..but for now all dese lectures nd stuff we'll have to listen to..=(..

Answer 9

You can't launch out of there until you are 18 and have graduated. so you need to make the next 2 years count. Start making real plans.

See if your high school has any vocational programs, and see what information they have on the 2-year vocational programs at the local community college... and any grants/scholarships available. This will fast track you into higher paying jobs so you will be self-supporting faster.

Keep working after school and on weekends, and SAVE your money. Get a savings account and put your money into a savings account. It will bear interest, which is good. You will need this money for deposits on your own place and utilities.

Start a "hope chest" and begin buying small things that you will need when you get your own place... shop the sales on such items. Like if you see a stainless steel set of cookware on sale for $50, you get that.

You will feel a sense of gratification each time you add to that.

If you have a date, then dress like you are going to work and have a change of clothes in your backpack. Make sure you come home at the appropriate time.