I hate being called beautiful?

Question

I have horrible self esteem. I have a friend who thinks I'm pretty. I wont let her call me beautiful though. i hate it!!! it just makes me think off all my defects and flaws. Does anyone else have this problem and how do i explain this to my friend?

Answer 1

I haven't heard of this problem before but I'm sure you will grow out of it and learn to love yourself. I also think that you are thinking that when the person says your beautiful, you think that they don't really think it and are calling you beautiful to cover up what they really think about you, but I think that isn't right, you have to just think, well, if they say I am beautiful, I am beautiful.

You could explain this to your friend in a friendly way, just tell her that you don't want to be called beautiful the time, you would prefer just to be called it once and then it is over, I'm sure she will understand, I would.

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Answer 2

i have people call me , sweety, pretty, beautiful,gorgeous, ***** and etc.. I love that. It's kinda fun to hear those words lol..I dont mind people calling me with those words. You should appreciate ur friend that AT LEAST he/she thinks you're pretty while others don't think you're pretty ( maybe)

You friend is just being nice to you..Dont turn him/her down by saying " I dont like when you call me Beautiful"

Answer 3

I think I have the same problem , because my friends always tell me that I'm pretty , but when I look in the mirror I just pick out my flaw instead of the good things about me . But just tell your friend that , no matter what you look like , her instinct as a friend will always be to cheer you up by saying your pretty even when you are and sometimes when your not .    

Answer 4

i do!!!!!!!!

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Answer 5

Maybe it's just because you don't think you are and your friend thinks you are, and you have never been treated that way before and you think that you aren't.

Answer 6

No I think it is a good way to make you feel better sometimes I mean you might think they don't mean it but when you have friends that are like family, like mine, then you know they are telling you the truth!

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Answer 7

ive had this problem concerning myself and some of my female companions and Friends- their problems seem to go around insecurities, while i just don't really want the attention, and i wanna be a person, not a concept.

if its a male that isn't trying to get into your pants- take it and enjoy it, if its a man trying to score, just enjoy it regardless.

    i personally enjoy the faults with a woman's body, it makes them unique and enjoyable.... then again i am also sadomasochistic- i doubt that you have any flaws of consequence- my best friend has tourettes, marfan's, scoliosis and self esteem issues.

  if its a woman... depends on the circumstance, you may have an ally or an enemy- don't sweat it, just have confidence and that helps your attractiveness

if you get insults from an enemy your doing fine so long as they cannot defeat your spirit

Answer 8

Hey, at least you get compliments.

Answer 9

well, i understand your situation, but sometimes getting compliments raises your self esteem

Answer 10

i have the same problem also I think its because we have such high expectaions of ourselves,we look in a mirror and see all the negatives .People like u will go far in life as its the ones who believe they are beautiful become so self indulged in themselves and forget the needs and feelings of others..Nothing worse than a converstion that goes "me me me me" "i i i i" lol.with natures like ours we are able to develop beauty on the inside also.Its a good trait darl youl go far in life and become a true beauty Just say to your friend beauty isnt just skin deep :)

Answer 11

I always feel uncomfortable when I recieve compliments, but sometimes i just need to remind my self to except it. They're trying to be nice! Sometimes, the only word I can get out of my mouth is thank you. And it works. You should try to just simply say thank you. When your friend calls you beautiful just say thank you and move on. If your friend says it like everyday and it's obnoxious just say, "yeah, i know I don't need to be reminded", and then laugh. Like a joke, ya know? Hope I helped!

Answer 12

I have a similar thing... I dont like to be praised. you can tell your friend that you dont like to be praised because you beleive in being humble

Answer 13

I have something sort of similar,

I like  when people call me pretty, cute, ect.

but i hate when they say beautiful for some odd reason.

Just tell you friend to stop saying that and that it bothers you.

Answer 14

accept it.

she's complimenting you not trying to rip your heart out with her bare hands, there's no harm in what she's doing. personally i find people who turn down compliments or negate them with a complaint, annoying. it's not like you asked her to call you beautiful she's doing it out of her own free opinion, by telling her not to say that you could be indirectly insulting her.

work on your self esteem, it's not flattering to behave this way.

Answer 15

I have a problem excepting compliments, I think it's because when I was younger my family all called me ugly

Answer 16

i can't accept compliments either, i'll argue with them that it's not true, because of what i was told when i was little. & my mom is a baad mom.