I hate being hated.?

Question

i've always kind of kept to myself until this year. i got sick of being a nobody, so i stepped up. i started being more outgoing and confident &started making more friends. this in turn also caused some people to dislike me for being me. i get called some pretty mean names and i really can't stand being not liked. it makes me feel nasty to know somebody doesn't like me. and i know i can't please everybody. i have to deal, i guess.

my question is what do i do when these people confront me? do i act nasty back? do i sink to their level? or do i just ignore it when its right in my face? &when they talk trash? what if they ruin my reputation?

Answer 1

Kill them with kindness :) You'll attract more bees to honey.

Answer 2

Try not to worry about who likes and dislikes you and just be yourself.  If someone confronts you or calls you names just do your best to ignore them and don't say anything back, try not to let them know it bothers you and they will probably get bored.  If they don't back off just try to remember that once you graduate you won't have to deal with those people anymore.  You will probably always encounter people who are mean and a lot of times it has nothing to do with you and a lot more to do with their own issues and feelings of low self esteem or they are trying to be cool.  About them ruining your reputation, if anyone spreads lies or rumors about you remember that anyone who believes it isn't a good friend anyway so it doesn't matter what they think.  What matters is what you think of yourself and your true friends will stick with you.

Answer 3

well most ppl would say just ignore them and i do as far as being around them but depends on what they say sometimes i just can't help it i'm nasty right back. i tk i'm a nice person and i do a lot for other ppl i will help just about anyone but i just don't take no c**p i was raised to never take c**p from anyone but lately i've really been trying to just ignore but sometimes i hate myself when i do that i feel like i let them get away with treating me like that  i feel better if i take up for myself and dish it back.

Answer 4

Mate, anyone hates me i wack them straight away, then they Know whose boss and they back down quick smart!

Answer 5

Well I give you props for being able to be more confindent, and make new friends. It takes alot of courage to be able to step up and put yourself out there. I have that problem, if I dont think someone will like me, or I think that they just wont like me, or I think they are too good to be friends with me, or whatever, I dont apply myself to put myself out there. But I say you are who you are and you shouldnt change yourself for anyone. Maybe some are just jealous cause they cant do that for themselves. You cant feel bad for being yourself, and if your nice to everyone, then you shouldnt have a problem, but some people are just nasty and you should not stoop to their level. And if people confront you about how you act, just explaon to them the real you, and they might just have the wrong idea about you.

Answer 6

No.. don't stoop to their level .. you already made great strides and you already have made efforts for the better.. you are more outgoing and you should always be you.. and those who are real friends will like you for who you are.. and there is nobody in the whole world my dear who is liked by everybody.. ..Nobody.. You should never stoop to their level.. either ignore them or if you can be sarcastic in a funny way.. then do that.. but don't pick an argument because those who act like that are immature.. there will also be people who like it that you won new self esteem.. and never ever think of you as a nobody.. you are somebody.. you are unique and you are as good as everybody else.. remember that.. tell yourself that you believe in yourself..  never think of you as a nobody.. you got to believe in yourself and those who make those stupid remarks, they too, have their weaknesses.. (to be narrow minded as they are toward you that is a big weakness they got) never be narrow minded.. keep an open mind to all people.. treat all people with respect.. and if that is not possible.. avoid them and still be polite.. never stoop down to such an immature level.. You are unique and no person is perfect and no person  has only people who like them and nobody has only people who dislike them.. we all have somebody who won't like us.. but they don't hate you.. some people just don't like us.. we don't like everybody but if we are smart we accept them as they are....we don't have to be their friends but we have ''peace with them and we don't talk down to them.... we ignore them... and in this world there is nobody who is superior as a human being and nobody who is inferior.. that goes for personality. for race and cultural background.. we may all be different but we are all equals.. we are humans and nobody is superior... we are all people living in this world.. and we all have strenghts and weak points.. x*x