I hate college but i get good grades..what to do?

Question

I really hate this college im going to. Everybody is so stuck up i dont really fit in. Everybody always just drinks, smokes, and smokes pot and i dont like doing any of that. Wheenver i try talking to somebody they quickly ignore me idk why. I dont have any friends even those who know me dont wana hang out with me unless i drink or something. Its really bad sometimes i feel like killing myself idk what to do? help?

Answer 1

Dear anonymous,

I tried to kill myself in high school and I know how you feel. But now that I am out of school and working and have control of my life, it is so great, and I know one day you'll feel the same way that I do. When you have the freedom to live anywhere you want, find people who are like you and like the same things you like, it is so great, so don't give up.

You are doing the right thing by not partying and wasting your time with all that junk. My first suggestion is ask a guidance counselor or other counselor on campus for help. It's important to have someone that can listen to you and help you get it all out, and have someone encourage you. Your college should have someone for that.

Also, here are a few other things I suggest:

Write down all your options. You could switch schools (possibly, if your finances and situation allow.) You could stay where you are, and find a club or organization that interests you and maybe you'll find people who have the same interests, or find a church that teaches good things so you can find friends that are not just looking to get high on drugs and alcohol. Even the worse case scenario might be that you have to keep going on with life as it is now. Try to find things that bring a little joy into your life. Budget for phone calls to home, if you have a nice family, or a friend there.

By writing all the options down, that can help. Also, journaling every night the negative feelings you have to get them out really can help according to research. Again, be sure to ask for a guidance counselor or a teacher for help. Don't feel bad. Many of the most secure and successful people have had counseling at some point in their lives. Just someone to say - you're okay. It's the others who are missing out on your friendship - this can help you feel so much better.  Here is a link that should encourage you:

Answer 2

concider changing schools, or go to collage.

Answer 3

I hate college too because I am still a virgin, never had a girlfriend, and I turn 21 next year, and I struggle to make new friends, I can't seem to fit in with the party scene

Answer 4

just deal with it for a few years and go to grad school. you could transfer, but i would only do that as a freshman or maybe a sophomore because you're going to lose a lot of the credits you earned in the transfer and you'll probably not get good scholarships as a transfer student.

what school do you go to?

Answer 5

It's important to disassociate yourself from corrupt scumbags and liberal socialists in today's world. Hang in there in stick with your principles - you'll do fine!

If you deal with this properly, I assure you you'll grow in stature, grace, character and success in life. It's a part of your growing in addition to scholastic education.

P.S. I see we have some thumbs down, undoubtedly from liberals themselves (probably some of the pimply guys in the band, or possibly other liberal students, party animals or professors on campus).

Answer 6

I would definitely suggest you look into transferring to a different school. If you get good grades don't drop out just because you're surrounded by shallow morons!

I would start by looking at schools that have a good department with your major (if you have one already). Take some time to go visit these schools, take some tours (they are usually given by students who already attend and you can ask them all about the school AND what the students are like). If it's a university that has a strong academic standing, odds are you're going to end up finding more people like yourself than those who only live for the next party.

Don't despair, there ARE good schools out there for you!

Answer 7

You should definitely look into changing colleges. If you do good in college then don't just quit because you don't like the college you go to.

change asap. and ignore the losers who don't wish to talk to you. it's their loss.

Answer 8

uhmm

transfer to a different college ?

or learn to adapt ?

or maybe youll find that group of people who are alike  

Answer 9

Man that sux.

I don't do that stuff either it's retarted and right now I am going through the same thing in high school.  Just get through collage or you could move to a diffrent one.

LIFE DOES GET BETTER AFTER COLLAGE..

SO THEY SAY.

Answer 10

Hey you sound exactly like me. I only have a very small group of friends who don't get up to all the drinking and smoking and stuff and are down to earth on what they do. The thing about college is its not about them anymore, its about you, and the rest of your life. Alot of people who were close to me hardly talk to me anymore because they are too busy with their drinking and whatnot. I decided that I was going to push forward with what I do regardless, because people do change but the most important thing is that you don't let them put you down. And it's always nice to find people who share your interest and don't just flow with the trend. Your not the only one out there, sometimes when I talk to these friends they quickly ignore or forget what I've said. It is your path to follow and you've got your goals. Keep at it and some day you'll reach the top.

Answer 11

Well, you have two options:

You can try to stick it out there in a place you hate.

or

You can transfer to a different university.

If transferring absolutely isn't an option, then try to find organizations on campus with people you think are more like yourself.  Not all sororities and fraternities are all about partying.  There are also service organizations in which you can become involved as well.  Whatever you do, don't give up and don't give in to what you don't want to do just to fit in.  You can do it!

Answer 12

sometimes going to college right away after HS is not the best thing to do. sometimes you need to take some time off and experience the world to discover your country or your world and see who you are and what you want to do.

Americorps and peace corps have these opportunities to travel and work and it does not cost you a penny. it does knock out a few years of your life as you work on gov't projects sponsored by the US gov;t at home and in foreign lands.

Some people join the military to see the world and experience different cultures as well.

there are many humanitarian aid agencies that you can try like the United way or the red cross that will take you to disasters throughout the world and US. These are free and you can find yourself and find your identity as you help others succeed.

then you can return to college to finish something that you are inspired to complete.

Answer 13

Just stick it out, because it won't be like that forever. Maybe transfer schools or try to get into a different group of people.

Answer 14

Transfer or join a club with people who might have similar interests as you. You're not alone there, no matter how small your school might be. And if it's a big school, I'm sure there are even more clubs that focus on things you like.

Answer 15

Omg I feel just like you.  I think you should transfer.  College is way different from high school.  It's not like you can just stick it out.  If your unhappy, your grades may suffer.  Maybe you should transfer to a smaller school or one not known for partying.  Talk to one of your old friends from high school.  I really hope it all turns out ok.

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Answer 16

You need to seriously reorder your priorities.  You are going to college for the education.  If you want a social life join a club, go to church or volunteer during your free time.  Getting through college with good grades is the most important thing you can do to insure your future, keep that firmly in mind.

Answer 17

You are allowing all of these "stuck up" people to ruin your college experience? Come on, I highly doubt that EVERY single person except for you is into drinking and smoking there. Surely there are other types of people around...you just may be limiting yourself socially. If you feel that you are around a bad crowd, then avoid those people. But not every one in college is as you described unless you go to a school with only 40 students.........