I hate her. What's a bride to do?

Question

My fiance's best friend is a GM. He's a great guy and I get along with him very well, his family adores me and he's a real treasure.

His wife, on the other hand, it's a horrible, rude, needy, narcisistic person and I can't stand her. For those that have followed the drama, that's the couple that put us to work like slaves in the california dessert with hardly any food or water on their wedding, the one with the narcisistic classless tendencies.

Anyway, my fiance wants his friend to sit a the table with us, along with that woman. She has been rude to me in the past for no reason at all and I can't forgive such classless offenses. I set up the seating arrangements and they are right behind us, we are having a small wedding, so they will be close, but far enough for my comfort.

We are having an intimate destination wedding, so there is no way of escaping the situation. I just don't see why they have to be in the head table. Our head table is for his parents, his sister and her husband, us, the maid of honor and her guest and our VIP guest. That's it. The GM in question will be seating with the other GM and BM... I just do not see the point of "honoring" that woman/monster in anyway. I know this is not the GM fault, but I do not want to put up with her needy, attention getter attitude in my own wedding. My fiance just saw the seating arrangements and said nothing. I hope that he doesn't comment on the situation again because he really wants his friend by him.

My question is:

-Have you have a person that you can't stand at your wedding? how did you deal? Any stories?

Answer 1

I find it amusing that you class this woman as being rude when you yourself on nearly all the posts you answer are beyond rude itself.  maybe you just dont like the competiton.  i look forward to you reply which i am sure will be rude.

Answer 2

Say sorry but this is how it is going to be.  If we let them then we have to let others too.

Answer 3

LOL- how long do you have? Or how much can I write.

Well, I found out that being nice about it or trying to be polite just doesn't work with me.  My moron husband made me invite her to my shower which was soo fun since she got ripped on the wine (and drank it all!  to the point where people were trying to hid the last bottle from her) and gave me a $7.00 gift.  Then at my wedding she drank while she was 3 month pregnant...... her husband denies it... and made ars complete full out of herself.  I sat them so far from us- it was great and I used the excuse that I wanted them close to the bar- LOL.  Sweet Heart Table is the best!!  My husband didn't caught on.  But now he constantly invites his friend out to do things and his friend just thinks that means I automatically get stuck with his wife.  After another big fight about "not" hanging out with her while fishing.  I finally blew up and told him- I not only hated the girl, she makes me sick and I don't want to be around her and her baby.  Sometimes you just have to sit them down and be like- yeah, I like your friend- please do whatever you want with your friend- but don't involve me becasue I am not going to keep holding back around his wife.

Oh, and my husband wants to start a biz with this guy- ding ding- the bell is ringing for fight number 2.

Answer 4

Yes, I have had a person that I couldn't stand at my wedding. First, I did NOT sit with her.  Second, I was polite at the right times and ignored her the rest of the evening.  I did not think about her, did not look at her, and did not waste a second holding onto bother or anger about her...I just did the polite thing at the right time and moved on.  Good luck,  I would agree that she should not sit at your table.  I think the table behind you is just fine.  Your husband can choose to hang out with the guy before and after dinner but while at dinner they can manage eating one table apart...

Answer 5

Once the meal is over, he can hang out with whomever he chooses. They don't have to sit at your table during the dinner.

Answer 6

Since your fiance seems to have the issue about him not sitting at the head table, have him tell his friend that he alone will be at the table and his wife will be seated at the other table.  He'll agree with seating them both at the other table.

Answer 7

Well, I wouldn't say we have anyone attending that I can't stand, but there are certainly a couple that I don't want to spend an extended period of time with.  I have a redneck aunt and uncle that tend to be racist and just plain ignorant about a lot of things.  They tend to be peaceful for the most part, but, if prompted, they start a bunch of c**p that has started arguments in the past.  I toyed with the idea of not inviting them, but thought it wasn't right.  So I figured, since my aunt and my mother don't get along and have some bad blood, they wouldn't come anyway.  Well, they are.  But they are staying at a different hotel from everyone else.  So I am just hoping to get through a few days, a few events, without anything boiling over.  I sat them with the most easy-going people I could find and I'm just praying I don't have to break up any fights along the way....

Answer 8

YES, I will have two people I simply can't tolerate at my wedding- I totally feel your pain about your GM's nasty, awful wife, as I'm facing a very similar situation.  But listen, she's his wife, and you have to respect that.  It would be rude to seat him at the attendants' table without including his spouse.  If she gets too obnoxious for you to handle, just excuse yourself, saying you need to "circulate" to mingle with all your guests.

Answer 9

Well I have not had a wedding yet as mine is in November however I have some advice...

I would leave the seating arrangements how you originally designed them. If your FH has something to say explain to him how you feel she may interrupt and steal the spotlight from your important day. I am sure he will understand. Also inform your FH that he can mingle with whomever after the dinner-toast.

My FH's family does not like me so I will not invite them to our wedding. It was thier choice not mine. I could careless but for some reason I feel as someone I dont care for will show up and try to ruin my day and I will accept that they are there however they will be sitting in the back and not next to or any where near myself or my FH. To tell the truth his faily doesnt care for me because I am not his x girlfriend & If I were I would be a W. Anyways... good luck with everything and I am sure things will work out for the best.  

Answer 10

I havent been in that situation, but seems to me he already has lots of "his side" at the table... you cant have everyone, you have to draw the line somewhere. It hardly seems vital that the GM is at the table.  

Answer 11

At Her Wedding, My Sister Had A Bridesmaid Who's Fiance Is One Of The Biggest A$sholes Out There. If You Say You Have Something Nice (Say A TV), He'll Go & Buy One Even Better Just So He Can Have Something Better. My Sister REALLY Didn't Want To Invite Him, But Because He Was A BM's Fiance She Had To.

So She Put Him On The "Reject" Table & But Him Next To One Of The Most Boring People Ever!! HaHaHa

Answer 12

how abouta private head tablwe for you and your husband?  A lot of couples are doing this to save face on who sits with them (family, bridal party and guests).  Have an intimate table for you and him, then seat everyone around accordingly.

Answer 13

your husband to be should be in agreement as this is your day both, and your happyness should mather

its called compromising, because you cant be rude and exclude his best mates wife, they get to come, but because she cant behave they dont sit at your table

wedding is all about compromising, and if you cant even compromise about your wedding day...then how in all are you going to compromise in the day to day life?

no your fine hon