I hate it when my mother knows things about me..?

Question

i can't stand it when my mother knows certain things about me. for example, i still remember very clearly when a few years ago, when i was at a school dance, she realized that someone had asked me. i didn't want to be around her for the rest of the week. i wasn't exactly embarrassed, i just hated the idea that she knew that detail of my life. what is wrong with me??

i also cannot stand the idea of her knowing what music i listen to..there is nothing wrong with my music; it's not explicit...just normal artists like madonna and kelly clarkson. i feel really guilty when i realize that there are some young girls out there without their mothers, but i still can't help but to hide things from her.

i'm really not a problem child...i hate the idea of trying drugs/alcohol, i am helpful around the house, and i try hard in school and all that...so do i have an issue? =( i'm ok when we watch movies together and all that, i just feel compelled to hide certain parts of me from her.

Answer 1

What you are feeling is normal for a teenager. We all feel/felt this feeling. It is the desire to be independent, to break away from our parents and be on our own. This is necessary.

This feeling of wanting one's own favorites (music, movies, etc) and having unique things about yourself that are not a part of your parents' lives is part of establishing one's own identity.

Believe me, it is just as hard on your mom as it is on you.  

Answer 2

hate is a very strong word but also very accurate  i love my mom but shes not my best friend  sooooooooo.... shes family and some times i do feel kinda bad