I hate my Mother-in-law. Is there a way to stop?

Question

I hate that i hate her. She is so mean!

Is there a way to stop hating her, and creating negative energy.

Answer 1

She's probably hit menopause, so you're screwed for a while. If she's just naturally mean, then you're screwed...(BTW, i hate my girlfriends mother....so very very much...)

Answer 2

No.

Answer 3

Pray for her every day for three full weeks.  Ask for her needs to be met, for her to be blessed, and that her joy may be full.  When you see her, resolve in your mind that there is NOTHING she can say or do that will make you hate her.  You didn't say exactly what it was that you hate about her, but you might try looking beyond her faults and see what her NEEDS are and try to meet them the best you can.  Hurting people tend to hurt people, and if she has been hurt, she might be angry at the world and trying to make everyone around her miserable too.  Maybe you can be the one to start showing compassion toward her and loving her until she can learn to love herself.  It would take a lot of patience and perseverance, though!

Answer 4

I am generally a positive person and generally look for ANY good in anything.  Yet there is no real solution to this.  Unfortunately in life there are those who we connect with, those who we can accept and deal with, those we can barely tolerate and then there is the mother in law who adds that bottom of the barrel that just says it like it is.  You can hate her and not ahve one thing in common with her for the rest of your life.  Yet you are family so the question should not read is there any way I can learn to like her or be happy with the fact that i can't.  But how can I make my miserable time I would rather spend poking my eyes out with a fork just this side of sanity.  LOL  Don't yo worry.  Many many in life have faced this and I have witnessed it for myself.  Fortunately I don't have tha trelationship but I WAS luck yin my day and she was a nice person who wasn't controling or just downright mean.  BUT I have witnessed it and do know exactly what you are talking about.  If I were you I'd just pour me a cup of coffee.  Sit down int he morning and pat myself on the back for knowing I cared enough to find reason in it.  And for knowing that now I know it is like the dishes or the laundry.  Something at times you can handle and be happy you'r ekeeping up with and other times you'd just rather sell the farm and buy a harley.  Be glad you are who you are.  You sound like a decent person and in all respect I am just letting you know it is normal and quite ok to feel this way.  Find something to do to include her without needing any acceptance in return.  It's like that old saying a watched pot never boils.  Words of wisdom.  It's your home your life,  you are in control.  Enjoy your coffee break to remind you then handle your day with dignity.   As I can see you do.  

Answer 5

just act like she  doesnt bother you, look for the good qualities in her, try being nice to her

Answer 6

DIVORCE!!!!

Answer 7

Pretty easy.

Just ignore it.

Just be really nice to her. Maybe once she realizes her negativity isn't affecting you... she will stop.

My boyfriend doesn't like my mom and he's afraid he will start to hate her even more when we get married.

The best advice is to just push the niceness on her. If you can't do that, then keep your distance.  

Answer 8

No

Answer 9

Just be polite to her, for your husband's sake.  She will probably not change whatever it is she's doing but you can change your reaction.  It also helps if you live far, far away.

Answer 10

if your husband is close to his mother, than you need to just be polite... we're all polite to strangers, like cashiers at the grocery store, or the receptionist at a dentist's office, why not to your husband's mother? but i'd express your feelings to your husband, he should be putting you before her now that you're married...  

Answer 11

wow...just talk to her about what is getting to you...you didnt elaborate so its hard to say what to do. But that neg energy is wasting you away. Its gonna be a long life just waiting on her to die...because only the good die young.