I hate my attitude can i change myself ? how ?

Question

sometimes my attitude really worries me ..

i find my self rude but i cant help it ..

i always want to be good but some how i m always interpreted as a attitude guy ..

how can change myself completly ...?

Answer 1

Stop a while before reacting to a situation. Think how to react. Then go ahead! Practice it. Things will improve.

Answer 2

You should just accept yourself or hesitate before saying something to be sure it's not rude.

Orrrr you can just smile all the time even when you're being rude and everyone will just think you're joking.

Then in an instant you'll become the funny guy.

Answer 3

Why don't you try therapy, I know it might get annoying but, it really helps. Why not give it a try? Maybe you have something you have kept inside you and you just need some one to talk to. That's what the problem always is.  

Answer 4

As far as I know, there are two types: positive attitude and negative attitude. The way we are brought up, we develop attitude towards, people, friends, relatives, religion, opinions, leaders, study and so on and so forth.

"Your want" o be good is a positive attitude. You are interpreted as "an attitude guy" is others' perception about you, or more appropriately, you think that others percieve you as "an attitude" guy. The question is what do you think? You hate your attitude becuase others hate your attitude or you really hate your attitude? Do you know if there's anything wrong with you? If not, then do you still want to change? Completely? Because a buncha people call you "attitude guy". What will you do if tomorrow, when you have completely changed they start calling you "no self identity"; "he's changed", '"he;s artificial". C'mon man, you are kidding.

Enough of gyan, let' get practical.

Do a self analysis. How? Talk to yourself. Take opinions from a couple of extremely trusted friends/relatives. Search the net for self analysis tools and you will lay your hands on several free resources.

Identify, if there's anything about the way you talk/speak/out yourself forward, that you would like to really change. Verify with your trusted partners. Remember, it should not be a laundry list. Identify only key (top 2 or 3) things that you would like to change.

To me you sound very open and self countious and hard working guy who is willing to change for others. Be strong inside and trust your knowledge.

Here are some good things that I have learned in life:

- Please treat others as you would like to be treated. Example, don't be sercastic in your communication. Don't expose people's mistakes. Make them aware in private and give a chance to explain their point of view. Give your opinion and let them make a judgement call.

- Be a good listner. There are no points to be the first speaker. Please listen to others' opinions and share yours.

- Conflict: when it comes your way, look for the bare minimum commonalities or areas of agreement and build your discussion from there. Don't concentrate on the areas of non-agreement.

- Read some good books. I would recommend: "How to win friends and influence people" and "personality Plus"

Remember: each of us are bron with some special features and are unique in that sence. The God or the universal force has created us and that entity loves us the way we are. Love yourself and others will love you anyway you are. If they love you after you have changed yourself, then it's not love. It's compromise.

Wish you all the best!

Answer 5

Who told you that you are rude? Why do you realy worry about your attitude? Do you believe, you have such a worst attitude? Idon't think so cause there are 1000 times worst things in your city. And do you think one can live harmonious life without accepting who s/he is? No i don't think so,and you know it. Always remember that your future is 90% on your hand.If you feel unworthy about an, your ,action let your you mind ,instead of passion,control you. Develope a belife that you can learn something from mistaks,even from being decieved.one last thing,if you had some hurtful experiences from family or society,avenge them doing some noble deeds.Whenever you remember those,remember you were different,better or worse,who knows...good luck.

Answer 6

Change only comes in due time. Rapid change is usually destructive. You can only transform if you truly want too. In some cases, when you catch yourself thinking of something rude or obnoxious to say in response, devert the thought and replace it with a positive one. Also, exercise good manners, and the morals will fall in place. =^-^= Good Luck!!!

~*WinglessAngel*~

Answer 7

You can't change yourself completely.  No one has that kind of power.

However, this  book can help you a lot:

http://www.amazon.com/Ten-Days-Self-Este...

Answer 8

A ship at sea for many years picks up thousands of barnacles that attach themselves to the bottom of the ship and eventually weigh it down, becoming a threat to its safety. Such a ship ultimately needs its barnacles removed, and the least expensive and easiest way is for the ship to harbor in a freshwater port, free of salt water. Soon the barnacles become loose on their own and fall off. The ship is then able to return to sea, relieved of its burden. You are carrying around barnacles in the form of mistakes, regrets, and pain from the past. Perhaps you need to allow yourself to soak in fresh water for a while.