I hate him, I hate him, I ******* hate him. He's not exactly her boyfriend right now but he will be soon.
She dated him for a whole year and things were fine for the first 8 months and he was even one of my best friends. I didn't even feel like a third-wheel when it was just the three of us because we were all really good friends.
But then, around late Jan. they started fighting like once a week. No big deal it's normal. But then it went to twice a week, then to everyday, and by April, they fought at least once everyday. He would always say "It's over!" and a bunch of other **** and be a big jackass and then five minutes later he'd come back and say the exact opposite and NOT LET her leave or break up with him. But I'm gonna say the whole truth so i can get an honest opinion but my best friend also said stuff when they were fighting and at other times that she didn't mean. She would always tell me that it was over and that she "kinda hoped" so. But then, they'd still stay together.
Anyway, even at this point, I didn't hate him yet. There was one day where they fought and he didn't want her to tell me what they were fighting about b/c he didn't want me to think less of him. And I told her that the only way I would think less of him was if he hurt her (physically), started doing drugs, or killed someone.
Then, in May, (it was actually the day before my b-day I think) he "broke up with her" (which was the usual by then) and stormed off. He ended up having to come to the class we were in that hour and take a test and as he was leaving, we was walking past me and my best friend and he kicked her.
I didn't really realize what just happened til I asked her if he just kicked her and by then he was out the door. At this point I was starting to hate him. But then the very next day, (my b-day, pretty sure) they were fighting again at her locker and I usually walk with her to that next class so I was there and she reached to grab her books on top of her locker so she could leave and he shoved her arms so that she couldn't leave and her hand went straight into the corner of her locker and cut it. (I feel bad about all of this now because I didn't do anything). And as we were walking away, she said "If it bleeds, then I will never, talk to him again." and it did bleed some and left a scar that I couldn't stop staring at or get out of my head for weeks. And then when I told him I lost all respect for him because he hurt her twice-right in front of me, he GOT MAD AT ME. He said it was "none of my business".
But abuse is everyone's business and I will not be an accomplise.
And then 10 days later, they finally broke up. They are not right for each other at all. Even she's said that a lot more than once and he's said that his ex-gf was a better gf than she ever was more than once.
But he said he was "gonna change" and get help to manage his anger issues-which he still never has.
But another reason I absolutely hate him is b/c he was and is always bringing her down. Her mood changes every time they talked. He always put her in a crappy mood, even when she was about to have fun and do something with me-it seemed like that happened everytime. So it was like he was shaking up a pop can and saying "here you go" to me over and over and over again.
And over the summer, they got back together, broke up "for good", got back together, and as of this very second, broken up again but they are going to be back together soon. And because he's such a jerk, sometimes I think less of my best friend cause she let him do all this and because she told me she didn't love him anymore and that "if he ever...she'd be gone."
So reasons I hate him:
1. He abused her. Emotionally and physically. And I cannot stand abusers. That's just something I feel strongly about and I'll never forgive him for it.
2. He basically treated her like c**p for four months.
3. He always brings her down.
4. He's nothing but lies and I can't believe a word he says.
and more but i think i've ranted enough.
So I hate fighting with my best friend about him. I feel like there's a wall between us because of him and I hate it. Also because she is my only true best friend that I have left. I want to support her because she still loves him (I think she's still in love with who he WAS not who he IS). But I don't know if I should do that or something else. I've been stressing over this so much.. I even have PVC's now b/c of it.
Please help. I don't know what to do.
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