I hate my best friend?

Question

okay, so my "best friend" has been my friend since like second grade. Anyway, she used to be okay but now she just annoys the c**p out of me. I can't make new friends because she annoys any new friends that I make so they won't hang out with me. She just walks up to random conversations, with people she doesn't know, and starts talking abot herself. She doesn't notice the others hate her, and then the people don't like me as well. She's really religious, and won't hesitate to tell others that they're not going to get "saved by the lord" because they're muslim or whatever. She's really clingy, and NEVER LEAVES ME ALONE. I don't answer texts/calls from her, and I always make excuses not to hang out with her(she tries to get me to go to FREAKIN BIBLE STUDY with her all the time!) I've been trying to distance myself from her, but she doesn't seem to realize that I hate her guts. I have lost all pretense of being nice to her, I dont even bother including her in the conversation, etc etc. Does she live under a rock or something? She JUST doesnt seem to get that I dont like her. And I cant just straight-out tell her not to be my friend anymore, because our parents are really good friends and they wold get pissed at me if I got rid of her.

Any other ways to get rid of her? Besides moving to Alaska, or murdering her?

Answer 1

Woah, woah WOAH.

I don't think murdering is a very good option.

Actually, you do need to come straight out and talk to her.

You don't hate her.

You may find her annoying, and frustrating that she scares all potential new friends away, but she doesn't seem malicious or anything.

Talk to her, definitely. Begin by saying you have something very important to say to her, and that you hope she doesn't take it the wrong way. Tell her that you want her to be happy, and tell her that some people get scared off when she approaches them and asks them questions. Tell her that she should be a good listener to others. Tell her, you want her to make more friends, and that you do as well. Also tell her that it's okay for everyone not to be her religion. The Lord is tolerant and forgiving, and would not want her scaring people into having faith, for they need to be faithful on their own accord.

Tell her, that it's okay for you guys to be apart, and make your own friends. Tell her she'll always have you as a friend.

She is most likely scaring your potential new friends away out of insecurity, that she is sure you will make new, cooler friends and abandon her. thats why she's clingy.

Reassure her, and boost her confidence.

Tell her what you like about her.

Maybe, you can convince her to join a sports team or club, to branch out.

Remember, you do not hate her, and time further apart will cure your friendship, so be distant without being hostile. Be there for her.

Good Luck!! :-)

Answer 2

Arrange to meet in private. It is always easier, and less embarrassing if you both are alone when you tell them you don't want to be friends with them. Think about what to say say beforehand. Remember, they have feelings too, so try to let them down lightly. No need to be too blunt, but make sure your message is understood. Don't lie. Be honest when you mention the reasons behind your actions. Make sure you do not discuss this with others. Explain as kindly as you can to them, that you feel that you just have nothing in common to establish a friendship. Don't sound angry or mean either that just makes the total situation more worse.

Answer 3

Don't make up excuses anymore.  It's kinda leading her on:)

It's like a bad boyfriend who avoids the truth and can't get a clue.

Break up with her like a boyfriend.

Say you both have changed over the year.

Don't talk c**p about her. That hurts feeling just let her down softly.

Hope this helps.

haha good luckk

Answer 4

Since your families are so close, I would suggest talking to your parents.  I'm a parent, and I would never make my kids stay friends with someone who acts the way your friend does.  There may be situations where you will have to be polite to her, but I bet your parents would understand if you don't' want to be friends anymore.