I hate my brother for this?

Question

he is 6 years old

ever since he was born, i was nice to him but he was mean

when he was a few months old, i was holding him and i was like 9 yrs old

we took a pic, in that pic, he's looking up at me like i did something really bad to him already................

now, i'm 14 and he's 6

he creates problems in our family and i get blamed for everything.. i don't know what to do

i tell my aprents but they don't give a dam, they think i'm the bad one

its him and my mom

my mom always gets mad at me for no reason cuz of him

i paly with him so much cuz its fun for both of us but then i want to watch some a tv show that i really love and then he goes crying cuz the show is 1 hr long and my mom won't elt me watch it!!

i have to paly with him whever he wants like i'm his slave and i can't do anything........

then i get in trouble with ym mom, then my dad finds out and so he yells at me..

what do i do...

and plus, my parents find a way to ruin everythign for me

i try hard at school, do my best, i get straight A's

do u know what my parents say? whyt eh h**l didn't u get A+!!!!

ur so dum, oo ahhh look at that other kid, he got a higher grade than u

in school, we get a rank on our gpa

i was ranked 13

this other kid my dad knwos through his parents is in another school and he got a 9 or something

i was like, we're in different schools, why the h**l r u comparing em to him? my dad jsut doesn't listen to facts.......

Answer 1

message me on yahoo! messanger and i will explain some stuff to you ok? i have the same issue

my IM is cc200758 (im 14 also BTW)

Answer 2

About all you can do is get a replacement doorknob with a keyed lock on your bedroom door and keep the little rat locked out of your stuff.

Find some legitimate ways to stay away from the house... school clubs, extracurricular activities, sports, study hall for that matter. All of these will help you flesh out your curriculum vitae for college AND keep you out of your brother's orbit. Get an after school job when you can.

When your parents lay some outrageous pap on you like that, do NOT show any resistance. Just nod and say "uh-huh", "okay" or "yessir!"... don't defend yourself. If you show resistance you are screwed.

You need to learn to use play time with the little rat as a means of installing some controls... the ol' "carrot and stick" approach. Use playing with him as a reward, and if he does not want to be nice, you withhold your attentions. Learn to say "Well if you are going to be nasty like that, I don't have to talk to you or play with you!" Communication is key. Teach him in palpable ways that being a brat doesn't get him anywhere. When he behaves, you make with the fun and games... take him to the park, take him out for an ice-cream... whatever.

Answer 3

I'm the oldest of 7, and this never changes.  He's the 'baby'.  Don't resent him, it's not his fault. Your parents allow him to act that way.  He's spoiled.  Because your the oldest your parents probably have unrealistic expectations for you.  I know mine did.  I'm 26 now and I still feel like nothing I do is good enoughfor my dad.  He used to say the exact same thing about the A's, I laughed when I read it.  Do your best, for you-not to please them.  Don't give up, or feel defeated....I did, and it put me on a tough road.  Your dad is proud of you, he probably just doesn't know how to express it.    As for your brother, your parents are probably just tired, and don't want to listen to him scream.  I find myself doing that with my youngest, "Just give him what he wants so he'll be quiet", I'm sure you've heard that a time or two.  I, honestly, doubt your dad called you dumb---but I'm sure that's what you heard.  They don't think your the bad one, your just a lot older, and I'm assuming much more mature.  They don't think you should still be jealous of him.  He creates problems because he's a six year old boy, that's what they do.  In a few years you'll be going to college, and he'll be alone.  You guys will miss each other.  Enjoy him while your there.  It's hard, make the best out of it.  Your not his slave, he loves you.

As for your parents, I think you have a lot of years of figuring that out.  You're ranked 13, be proud of yourself.  You'll be okay.

Answer 4

Well im sorry, sounds kinda rough.  Hopefully your brother will grow out of it.  Just know, some people have it worse.  My little brother played on the computer all night in my room and kept me up all the time, and my parents would not stop him.

Just try to understand maybe your parents are having a hard day or somthing and stay cool ;)

Answer 5

dont complain so much

wat i did when my siblings pissed me off, id leave the house and hang out with friends for a couple of hours, or go play a sport

dont get grades for ur parents, eventually u will stop caring and THEY will, instead try to see that these grades are for u and u only and only then will begin to benifit from them and have a chance to maintain them

sounds like ur brother is a little annyoing btw, maybe ur mom shouldnt spoil him so much...idk....

Answer 6

I totally understand you. My sis is 19 years old and I'm 16. She treats herself as 5 years old. She is always jealous of me because I'm the pretty one and she is not. Also people love me because I'm always in a good mood, funny and polite. And she is always depressed and angry. Now I'm trying to ignore her. Only ignoring her helps me.

Answer 7

Dude, he's six.

SIX.

It's jerkish to hate a kid that young, ecspecially when that kid is your brother.

Answer 8

look, i bet your brother admires you and wishes to be like you. he wouldn't want to hang out with you all the time if he didn't like you.

explain to your parents how you don't appreciate being their kid's babysitter jsut because they don't feel like parenting.

tell your parents that if you didn't have to babysit their own child all day, then maybe you could study more to get that A+.

i'm sure your parents really don't believe you are the blame for everything. they just find it easier to yell at you than your brother. i think you need to seriously stick up for yourself more.

oh and as a mommy to a newly born baby- please don't take it seriously that your little brother made a bad face to you when he was an infant! maybe he was constipated or something!! lol. either way, everything is new to a baby. my son had a confused look on his face 24/7 practically his whole first month of life. i'm sure you will find more pictures where ur brother is smiling with you too!!