I hate my brothers girlfriend?

Question

she is 18 and shes so mean to me im not a dumb kid so i know i HATE her with all of my heart.

every time i think of her i wanna cry coz shes so mean to me..i dont wanna say how shes mean but she always puts me down and when no ones around she will be mean to me. and im angry at my dad coz hes so nice to her and doesnt care wat she does to me and i get so sad..i dont normally get emotional but i get so lonely and sad and cant help but cry (im so sad just writing this) she comes over all the time because her parents got divorced but i dont see why i should get treated so badly by everyone

i dont know what to do =( i dont want to talk to her and my dad doesnt care about me and i get in so much trouble from my mum wen i get sad over her...last time my brother knew i hated her he didnt talk to me for so long i cant remember so i dont want to talk to him i have no one IM SO SAD =(

Answer 1

just ignore her.  

Answer 2

Who your brother chooses to date or go out with is his own business,  its not left up to the whims of a girl to tell her brother who he can and cannot see.  Also if that person is mean to you, do what everyone else would do, just avoid her, you dont have to be rude or sulky be pleasant but just dont have anything to do with her.

Answer 3

Do you and your brother have a close relationship?  The reason I ask is she might be jealous of you and so she treats you like c**p.  My brother was and still is one my best friends.  He's 5-1/2 years older than I am though so when we moved back to the states I was less than thrilled when his girlfriend came over one day while the 2 of us were playing football.  She decided she wanted to play with us and was taken off guard when I tackled her.  It was a clean hit but she was interfering with my time with my brother.  (He lived in the states with relatives the 2-1/2 years we lived in Honduras because he was in high school and didn't get to see him much.  When we came back he was a senior in high school so we didn't have much time left before we were going to be separated again)

It honestly sounds to me like there's a bit of jealousy coming from both sides.  Neither of you want to share you're brother and you're brother is getting caught up in the middle.  There's a special bond between a big brother and his little sister and that isn't broken easily, but right now he's sticking up for her because, well he's afflicted with a Y-chromosome which tends make thinking get a little screwy especially when it comes to girls.

Answer 4

You have to understand that you are not the centre of the universe and that your brother is free to date whoever he likes whether you like her or not.

You need to be mature enough to realise that you will not like everyone who passes through your life but you still have to relate with them on a superficial level.

You don't have to pretend to be friends, just be civil and stay out of her way.

I'm sure there are people you have as friends or boyfriends that your family do not like but they choose to accept them because they are your friend.

Give your brother the same courtesy, this relationship may not last but you could do permanent damage to you relationship with your brother if you are not careful.

If she is abusing you in some way then it is different and you need to talk about it with your family but if you just don't like her then tough, life doesn't always give us what we want- you'll have to get used to it.

Answer 5

Ohhh the brother's girlfriend. Hey, don't worry. Just try to ignore her as much as possible. If she sees you aggravated and irritated that's an incentive to hurt your feelings even more. *pats back*

Answer 6

We can't actually help at all if you don't specify what the problem is, what she's saying.

Maybe you need to grow up, I don't believe you're 18  years old. Using the word "mean" and essentially being bullied by someone when you're an adult.

edit: Sorry my bad. I misread the start as you being 18.

Okay you get some slack if you're only 16...

Point 1 still stands though. The answer though, is basically to try and avoid her. Also if you don't like her, she and your brother will sense this and it will make things worse, so try to be nice. It's hard for people to be mean when the person is being sweet to them

Answer 7

Ignore her!  She probably won't be around for ever!!!!