I hate my coloring so much.?

Question

I have these ugly *** brown eyes. They're just brown. They don't change in the sunlight or in different seasons. They're just plain ******* brown. And my hair is so frizzy if I don't straighten it. And It's black too. And my skin..God. I've been using lightening products for years but they don't work. I hate my skin tone. I would get colored contacts or highlights but it would look fake and I would look like a white girl wannabe. I just can't get over it. I hate the way I look so ******* much. I hate it. And my lips have this natural lip liner things around them, so it always looks like I have lip liner on. When I put on make up it just slides right off. I'm South Asian if you were wondering. I hate how we all look the same. I know I put too much importance on looks, but when I get stressed out it's all I can think about. I made a post like this recently, but the feelings of ugliness have some back. Plus, I get no attention from guys. None. Ever. And I'm a senior in high school.

Please, if you have any advice, I would really appreciate it.

Answer 1

Remember, you are your own worst critique.

It sounds like, if you could, you would change everything about you!  Think about it.  You wouldn't be you anymore!

Very few people I know are happy with the way they look and, of the ones who are happy, it's sickening the way they talk about themselves and how beautiful they perceive themselves to be.  Whenever I've gone shopping with some of them, it's so bad I have to pull them away from any mirrors they can find to gaze at themselves!  People like that are annoying.  However, that doesn't mean we have to hate the way we look.  It's about learning to be content.

South Asian people are beautiful.  On the whole, you're petite people and have your own attractive features.  All Asians I know have gorgeous smiles.

Learn to appreciate something about yourself and accentuate it.  Maybe try a new hairstyle or something like that.

All the best to you. =)

Answer 2

Kudos to you for at least realizing that coloured contacts would look bad on you--I know a few girls who are "white girl wannabes" and it just doesn't work.

I can sympathize with you on the guys part--I'm the same way. I've been told I'm too "intimidating" (whatever *that* means... rawr...), which doesn't really help me "improve"... so if it helps, you're totally not alone in that respect... chalk it up to guys being afraid of what they're not used to, and in North America, they're used to white girls.