I hate my family and thinking about running away

Question

i have not gotten on with my family for a good 5or 6 years they don't want me around they have basically said that to me in the past my mum said she wants to put me in care both my parents have said they nearly walked out on the family because of me my dad threatens to hit me mostly all the time

last year i started to self harm thinking that if i cut myself in the right places i would die and not have to live in this world and be more happy but when that did not work and my parents found out i was unhappy so i started to think about running away one time i packed my bag wrote a note to my parents and was getting ready but i could not because that was a college day and my friends would of seen me if i left so i have stayed

i have got a long term bf who i love and really am happy to be with but sometimes i feel like he is only around me because he feels like he has to be and that he dont really want to be with me he'd rather be home or out

i have got learning difficulties and my mum and dad uses that against me all the time they say oh you cant do this because of your learning difficulties but the expect same thing my younger sister say could ask she will get to do because she has not got any learning difficulties but mine are not even bad just with spelling and a bit of learning only on not been able to keep up sometimes

this is not the only time that i have felt like this i have felt like this for the most of my life i would rather die than suffer another day or i would rather run away then be with them any longer i know what people would say running away if not the answer but if you have been through what i have it is i dont not care about where to live and all that as long as i can be happy with is hard because i am always sad even when i think i am happy i know that i am sad and i dont know if i can be happy or back to my self if i dont get out of the house and runaway if i dont i know i am going to kill myself

i have seen a councellor but they have not help i find it really hard to write or talk about how i feel its really hard for me to talk about this its taken me 3 times to write it i dont like telling people because i think they will stick there noises in and tell me that my parents love me when they dont they have said and i know they dont

please give me advice

i need to know i want to run away i think i am going to run away i know the place that i am going to go to as well and i got enough money

tell me thats the right thing rather than just staying at home crying your self to sleep and wanting to kill your self because your life is falling apart when you can start freash and be some one that you have always wanted to be without anyone telling you not to

Answer 1

I am so sorry to hear about all this... they actually told you they don't love you? OMG... If you are old enough you could seek emancipation. Talk to your counselor about that. Maybe you are better off away from them. Try to find some relatives to stay with for a while. Good luck    

Answer 2

Let me just tell you from experience, that everything you think is bad and terrible, can be 10 times worse in the real world, living on your own.

I ran away from home when I was 18. I'm 19 now, and i miss my family that I thought I hated alot. I cry myself to sleep in regret now instead of crying myself to sleep hating them.

Everything that you think is so bad, really isn't.  And it depends on how old you are. If you're under 18, the cops will bring you right back any way.

And if your over 18, do yourself a favor and tell them calmly that things are obviously not going well, and you think you guys would all be better off separated.

You may not think so but it some cases once you move out. You get along way better, than staying, or running away.

I couldn't just move out, because my parents wouldn't let me, so i ran away and  I have to live every day with the pain and suffering that I put them through wondering where I was, and not having a  clue. Needless to say, we don't get along very well, and I still wish i would've stayed home with my family.

that boyfriend of yours that you think will be there for you no matter what, he won't be. I had the same set up. He won't be there in the end. But when he dumps you and brings you down to nothing but a puddle of depressed  and crying flesh, your family (at least one member) will be there for you, even if you don't get along, and  it comes with a your so stupid comment, because really until 25 we really are stupid and i think we just don't see it.

I can't go home now becuase i ruined our relationship so bad that it could never be mended, and I wish so much that I could just go BACK in time and fix what I didn't even realize I had to s***w up.

Take this how you want I'm not telling you do or don't, just telling you how it went for me and others.....

Answer 3

If you run away, the police will come and get you. And then you could be put in juvenile detention, which is not a nice place to be.

If you believe your home is not a good place for you to be, open your phonebook to Government offices (in the front). Find your County Family Services office. Call and ask to talk to a case worker. Tell them why you want to leave. They will come and talk to your family, and, if they think you need to be away from there, will find a foster family for you. Or, they might simply intervene to try and help your family become better. Either way, you will have someone who is on your side who you can talk to about your family problems. It's a much better option than running away.

Answer 4

Your situation sounds just like mine about 20 years ago.  If you can try to remember that soon you will be free to make your own way for the rest of your life and be patient until you are 18 before you leave, you will be far better off.  At that point, you can legally make your own decisions without interference or criticism from anyone.  I recommend going to your local community college and ask to see a guidance councilor.  They can help you make education and career plans that will keep you safe and strong and typically can point you in the right direction for getting other assistance as well (ie. living situations, counseling, LD accommodations, etc...)  Good luck and try to stay positive.

Answer 5

I know what you mean I am only 13 and I suffer major depression,have back pains,leg pains,neck problems,and I have sight problems.My family. always say oh don't worry we'll go see a doctor,or oh we'll get you new glasses,or oh we will go to a Chiropractor,but guess what It's been a year,and I still haven't gotten any help,and worse is I get bullied a lot,and at school I have no friends,and I called fatty and stuff,It is really damaging and I cry myself to sleep,and no one,and I mean no one understand my problems,I also have been wetting the bed,and my mom just tells everyone and starts laughing,I thought about killing myself,but you know what I believe god has a plan for me,He put me In these tough situations for a reason,because I am a strong,smart,beautiful,and creative young woman,and no one will bring me down.

Answer 6

Hi  

I am a mother of 8 kids and 8 step kids, and have had some psychology training.  You're right you do need some advice, professionally.  Self harm is not the answer - you sound like a really great person, just because you have learning difficulties (not that it's evident from someone who can write their story like you just have) - you just need some help in some areas of your learning.  Every one needs assistance with things throughout their lives - and maybe your family could use some assistance with their parenting skills too.  Sometimes parents just forget you're still young and learning and will make mistakes (I'm sure they make mistakes too, after all no-one is perfect).  This is not your fault.  How about your friends - can you talk to them?  You really need to talk to someone else about this.  Don't just run away - nothing will be resolved. You need to take control of the situation and tell your parents how you feel, these are your feelings, you own them! you just need a little bit of assistance to let your family know what you're feeling - even if you cant do it yourself get a professional to tell them for you in a controlled situation.

I hope that's helped you out a little bit.  Talk to someone at your college, they usually have student liason officers who can speak on your behalf, or they will know someone who can help.

I wish you all the best for your future.  

Answer 7

Running away is for losers. Don't do it. You would go home in a day anyways

Answer 8

Is it possible to go live with another adult relative?  A Grandparent, Aunt or Uncle?  You would feel much better and would probably do better out of that setting.  Running away isn't going to help since this leaves you venerable to get raped, murdered, beaten,  being homeless is no joy ride.  You would have to beg for money, eat out of the garbage can, sleep out in the elements.  You need to finish your education since this is the key to freedom.  Focus on your studies even though you have a disablity you can still suceed in life.    

Answer 9

whatever you do dont run away that will jus cause more problems deal with it until you could do better if they listen to you

Answer 10

im so sorry.  i feel this way about my family sometimes, where you just feel like strangling them there and then would solve your issues and that it would make life easier.

but of course, it would not.

you said you go to college? then girl your legal!  get the heck outta there if your having death thoughts and hate them that badly.  go live with your aunt or uncle or grandma-anyone!  maybe you could even go live at your college, or transfer out of state.

but for now just stop causing harm to yourself.

wheater you want to believe it or not, people WILL miss when your gone.  just stick it out, and soon you'll be out of there.

and your boyfriend? whats his problem? call that guy up and tell him that your his girlfriend and if hes serious about you he needs to ACT like it.  if hes not, dump his sorry butt.

best of luck in everything you do.  just stay strong and think about you right now.  keep moving forward and forget the past and just do the best thing for you and only you. your in my prayers!!

Answer 11

o.0 i feel very bad for you.... well if they beat you and that stuff...im guessing its the right thing....

Answer 12

Running away from your problems is a bad habit to start. good luck.

Answer 13

Oh girl, sorry to hear that.  I understand you feeling.  Running away is not the answer. Why don't you try to ask help from your relatives, or anybody close to your mom or dad.  Somebody that they would listen of your grievances. Maybe they will get their attention of how you feels.  Just try to ignore of this favoritism, just be yourself and do something that would make them notice you by helping doing the household chores. Do something that they will recognize you as the very helpful daughter.   This can solve your image as a having a learning difficulties. It will change to a very" helpful daughter".  Don't be sensitive they are your family and you want to have appreciation do something really that appreciate them.  With all this I don't think you will not be noticed and accept your difficulties? Go Go Go! Good luck girl.

Answer 14

Get a job, save money, and get a flight to one of your relatives and don't tell anybody!  

Answer 15

This happens all the time.Childern thinking they want to run away because what could be worse then youre parents hitting you /or verbel abuse.But the fact of the matter is that .It is worse out on the world by youre self.But if u want to run away do it.Just remeber,why did you run away?think about it.

Answer 16

The foolish thing you could ever do is to literally kill yourself, despite how bad your situation is. At the end of the day, you are letting those people win who have treated you badly. Stay strong and level headed, dont keep these feelings & emotions inside you because being bottled up isnt making it any easier for your sake. TELL SOMEONE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS, dont be quiet about it - if its another relative of the family, a friend, even your college/school mentor because that it how you will let these feelings out and people having to help you overcome your problems, Im sure there is someone else you can talk to that is close to you. Dont stand in silence, running away from the problem isnt going to make it better either because you're just going to put your life in  more danger. Go to your aunt's house or nan's house, or even a friend's house to cool the situation down and get your mind at ease...but it seriously helps if you literally open up your feelings and emotions to someone else because they will help you in any way possible..

Answer 17

If your old enough I would definetly suggest moving out. If not, you should not be going through that much pain and if any of your family members hit you to hurt you call the police, don't worry about how they will feel. They feel they can hurt you so tell them wrong. If you don't feel that you could gain courage to call the police tell a friend or a friend's parent so they can for you.

Answer 18

go live with your boyfriend and if he really loves you he will make you happy and will love you and you can have a fresh start:]

Answer 19

what are you writing a short novel?