I hate my family...?

Question

I cry myself to sleep everynight because of them.

My sister is 18 years old, she syffers from servere bi-polar. She thinks she's better then everyone and that no she matter what, she's always right. She also has a heavy drinking problem. She has an order of protection and goes to court every Thursday, though she breaks the rules of it, they do nothing to enforce them on her. She makes me feel like I'm worthless, that I'm nothing compared to her. She ruined my family completly, no one is ever happy anymore, everything we do HAS to please her or she starts screaming and throwing things and breaking things. After all of this, my mom still babies her. I have a really small room, and it's the hottest room of the house in the summer. My sister's room isn't the least bit hot, but she still gets to sleep in the living room where it's cold, every night. I also think I am bi-polar, and last year, she said she would take me to the physcairtrist, she never did. I feel like I'm getting worse. My mom thinks everything I do is to get attention, but what she doesn't get is that I HATE attention. I've been going to bed at six in the morning every night, for the past month and a half, and my mom sees nothing wrong with that because she's too worked up about my sister. I really need help here, sorry that it is so long, and it probally doesn't make sense. But please, can some one help me? I really don't know what to do anymore, I just wanna kill myself.

Answer 1

There's an eighteen year old with a drinking and medical problem

who drives your entire family crazy, not just you. You will NEVER be

alone with this, you always have someone there. Always.

You are a teenager going into high school, as if that isn't enough

already! You wanting to give in will kill you, whether you want to do

it yourself or not. Your life is being ruined because you are letting it!

Fight! I don't mean yell at your mom, and yelling at your sister isn't

even in the picture. I don't mean crying or hurting physically or

emotionally. You have enough of that. You have tried to make things

better.

You need a break.

Teens (especially)... (I know you know there are others going through

this and you must keep that in mind)...they will kill themselves

over this. They will drink and smoke and get into drugs for this.

They will abuse and be abused for this. Others will party and

ruin their lives over this. Others will run away, and make awful

livings, making money out of stealing, and selling themselves, selling

drugs.

You. Will. Not.

You will get over this. You just need a break! Try getting

a teen job... whether it's volunteering at a plant nursery or

being the local pool's lifeguard. Get a friend to drive you.

Get someone you trust to support you, and care for you,

and maybe live with instead for a while, like a family friend, a

grandma, a school friend....Though trust wisely. Your sister will

have to move out soon, and your parents will have to let her

go.

You need to talk to your parents calmly, and slowly.

I know what you're going through, and I know you

will NOT be weak and let yourself go! I'm a stranger

and though this probably may not be believable to you,

I believe in you. This coming from a stranger?

This will surely come from someone that is close to you.

Your mother really has played it safe from

what you have written about her "babying" your sister...

She DOES pay attention to your late bed time! She

DOES pay attention to you in general, sweetie!

You are her life. If you let go,... just think about

what that will do to her. Help her. Fight with her.

I may have said nothing in this unbelievably long

story, but I think you know where to go from now,

and believe me when I say I've fought through it

myself.

And I won.

Answer 2

Judging by your profile picture, you are emo.  Its a phase, you will grow out of it when you mature a little bit.

Answer 3

Don't kill yourself. Try talking to your mom about how you feel and be really honest with her. If she doesn't take action then try living with a friend for a while. Just get away from your family for the time being, then maybe your mom will notice and something might change. I had a friend that did because he had family troubles, he lived with his friend for a year, got a job and then got himself an apartment.

Answer 4

please please please please, dont think about killing yourself! it's not worth it :(

your sister is tearing your family apart. and i completely understand what you are going through babe! my mum does the exact same thing, because she suffers from depression!

it feels like everything evolves around her, and when she walks into a room there is a massive atmosphere.

you have to understand though, that my mum and your sister would choose not to be like this if they had the choice, they would choose to make their family happy. they act the way they do due to their illnesses.

i know its still really annoying, but deep down i know the reason you are really angry is because you are desparate for her to get better. and i understand that to! you are worried about her, and thats why you have the extreme urge to kill yourself. promise me you wont! it's really important you live your life to the full.

i understand everything you have said! i feel like i know you completely! i have problems with eating, and have a BMI of 14, but my mum seems to think i am acting this way for attention, but i hate attention aswell! i understand how stressed you are and i really want to help you :)

please stay in touch, maybe we can help each other out a bit?

good luck babe x x x

Answer 5

DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. Thats not gonna solve the problem it will just make it worse. It will make your mom and sister feel bad. Honestly your sister isn't bipolar she just crazy and wants some attention and her drinking is making her crazier. Dont let her get you feeling bad cuz she needs help. Try to get out and be with friends or some other family. Maybe you need to stay with another family member. Be POSITIVE!!! Dont let crazy people make you crazy. When she makes you feel worthless ignore it and know that your obviously worth something since she goes out of her way to make you feel like that.  

Answer 6

families that has a mental patient upon them is never relaxed,

this is a fact ,do you know how much stress your mother is taking on her shoulders specially that your sister is behaving like a spoiled ******

sorry to say that ,

she has to take her medication or she must be locked in rehab

its not your fault to have a sister like that ,

start to be away from your family ,create your own life,study well don't talk to her or speak to her ignore her till she starts to respect you and tell your mother if she doesn't take her medication you are going to pack and live with your uncle/grandparents

don't go insane dear that's exactly what she is looking for now ,she knew how to control the house.get out as soon as you want and have your own life *take your father too*you need help and your mother needs that too

every family under such stress they need such treatment,

plz

think twice before anything stupid you may regret all you life:)

ask GOd to help you

Answer 7

It doesnt sound like your sister is bi-polar, at least if she is she is a spoiled brat too. People with bi-polar can and do behave as well as other people. Its probably more the drink that turns her into a *****.

I think you need to take your mum to one side and let her know that you are really unhappy. Maybe you have a relative you could go and stay with a while until you can get your own medical needs sorted out. or if your old enough, take yourself to the doctor.

Answer 8

WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPTY DOOOOOOOOOOOO

Answer 9

i did not read the full story but i guess you are a teenager probably 15 your family arent giving you privacy or/and  not enough freedom and independence, i guess you are also attracted to someone but did not approach,

first of all you need something to keep you away from killing yourself, catch a sport, go shopping or find yourself a cute guy to hold you when you are crying (also NOT to have s*x with when you cry), then you need to solve your (excuse me) jealousy of your sister and i see all you have been doing is facing your mother while you should aim to your sister, talk to her, just you and her for a private conversation, im sure she also will appreciate it..

always think of a bright side, like you have beautiful hair and it would be a pitty to kill yourself, get yourself busy with something like find a summer job or concentrate on your studies, take photography lessons between semesters..

Regards

Answer 10

Remember when your 18 you can get out of there legally. Do your own thing now and do what you can to build yourself a good future, like getting good grades and thinking about your career. You do have a ways to go but just try and stay out of the house as much as possible and stay occupied with things you like to do. And killing yourself is the last thing you should do, so that's not an option. Remember everyone has a future but you have to make it. Let it be motivation to do something good with your life, where your making the money and are a self made person. It will make you feel good about yourself with all you have accomplished. Good luck.  

Answer 11

Stop bloody moaning. If its any consolation I hate your family too. This includes you, you moany little misery guts. Go out, drink some bloody cider and get laid. You big moan...