I hate my husband?

Question

Has anyone else felt their relationship is arbitrary after having after having a baby?

Answer 1

What does arbitrary mean in this context?  The question doesn't make sense because that word doesn't seem to fit.  

Do you mean "optional"?

Answer 2

yes, i know what you mean, this is mostly because your probably really stressed out ... and everythin is kind of getting on ur nerves.  My husban (edward cullen) and i had LOTS fo trouble after the first baby, becsuse all of this new baby in our life (with a whole bunch of new and different things going on ) we would get on each others nerves SO SO much.

Answer 3

sonetimes i really worry about us!

Answer 4

Gee, whose the crab grass in this rose garden?

Answer 5

arbitrary isn't the right word.  Irrelevant or extraneous would be more appropriate.

Answer 6

You might be experiencing post partum depression.

Why don't you go talk to a doctor about your feelings.

It's hard on any relationship to meet the demands of a new baby and your spouse.

Answer 7

It happens to all of us... My husband and I had more problems than you could possibly imagine after we had our daughter.  He wouldn't help out at all and I did everything.  Then he would use the excuse "I worked all day" when he'd get home so he still would not have to help.  But I will tell you, we split up for a few months and it helped us sooo much.  We split up our time with our daughter and it made him more of an independant parent and made him want us to be a family even more so.  Ever since that we have been great and we charish our life together now

Answer 8

The stress alone of having to rearrange your life to fit a child is enough to make even the best of couples have some arguments. My guess is that you really do love him you just cant stand him sometimes. Husbands sometimes let us down. They dont parent the way we thought they would and frankly we get the bulk of it and feel completely left alone to pick up the slack. I wouldnt jump to divorce yet though. It does get easier as you get more routine in your new lives. Make sure you have a date night once in a while so you can stay connected as husband and wife. You  cant be mommy and daddy 24-7. Gotta find a little alone time for you, plus a little hubby wife alone time.

Answer 9

It sounds like he isn't being supportive enough or is not showing enough love for the new baby.

Answer 10

No...I feel like my relationship is more important than ever. Now that I have a baby I don't know what i would do without his support! (and, companionship).

Answer 11

I had triplets and in the hospital my husbend denined the second one caue he was skinner then the rest and didn't look like him. we end up spliting up over the c**p until we got are dna results back. men are just dumm!