I hate my life, my dad ruins it?

Question

he is immensely overprotective and i hate it. i know he cares, but this is over the top. ill be in college next yr and i still have an early bedtime, hardly any allowance, and i have to show him my agenda every nite [WTF]. I HATE it. should i move out as soon as i turn 18? even my mom hates it but he doesnt listen. i HATE my life with my dad. What can i do? he babies us.

Answer 1

With so many bad things in the world these days I'm sure I'll be over protective of my children too when I have them. Try to see it from your dad's point of view. Maybe you should try talking to him like an adult and explain it to him. If you move out at 18 he's just going to worry about you more and probably drag you back home!! Talk it through and remember that compromise (on both sides) is the key to all relationships. If you show him that you are responsible then he should have less reason to worry. Hope this helps?

Answer 2

I'm old school.  When you are on your own, you make the rules in your home.  When you are in your parents' home, they have the rule; no matter how old you are.  With freedom comes responsbility.

Answer 3

Well I can't reason with you, because my dad isn't over-protective or anything, but I'll try.

If you're going to college next year, you SHOULD be mature enough to get a late bedtime.

But the question is, have you tried to reason with him on that?

Try repeating everything you said to him, what you said here. Maybe he'll actually realize his own over-protectiveness, and change a few things.

As for moving out, do you have any financial plans? Where will you live? How will you support yourself without your parents?

Moving out of the home, means your on your own, and you have to make sure you can  support yourself, without anybody for the time being.

And your mom hates it right? And you said "Us", so I'm just going to assume "Us" means you and your mom, or you, and your mom, and a sister. Why don't you just double/triple team him? He might realize, that when both his daughter/s, and his wife are right, something he's done HAS to be wrong, and he may re-think everything he's done so far.

And do you really hate your dad? Can you really hate him for the rest of your life? You have to understand, even though he's being over the top with being over-protective, he just cares about you. All you can do, is the above, and ask him to tone it down a bit. Because you are around 17 right? You are almost a adult, and he has to understand that  your not a little kid anymore. I'm going off topic here, but just try to reason with him, all-the-while convincing him that he has to let go.

Cya.

Answer 4

OMG I CANT BELIEVE YOU CAN SAY. tHAT YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL YOUR DAD CARES SO MUCH FOR YOU. YOU SHOULD TALK TO HIM ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL, SO HE REALIZES YOUR NOT HIS LITTLE BABY. YOU SHOULD TREAT HIM. lIKE IF YOU DONT TREAT MY LIKE AN ADULT, I WILL START MY LIFE AWAY FROM YOU. DONT WORT HIS FEELINGS. HOPE THIS HELP. :)

Answer 5

sit down and ask him straight out why he babies you.  Obviously he loves you but remember he is a guy.  He knows what guys are like at your age and He knows the things that they do at that age.  Girls think they know guys but they really don't .  you really need to be careful out there

Answer 6

all you have to do is wait till your 18,

you have done it for this long why not a little but more

and i think its sad that you think you should get allowance when your almost 18,

my parents made me get a job,

Answer 7

i guess jus wait till ur 18 and say LOOK I AM 18 I AM NOT A LITTLE GIRL ANYMORE! I AM AN ADULT!! TREAT ME LIKE ONE!

Answer 8

I think the honest answer is that once you go to college, your dad will back out. If you are going to a farther away college, kudos. There is no possible way your father can reach you at a far away college. Honestly, though, I bet your dad is overprotective because you are reaching that time in life when you are more than ready to go out on your own, but once it does happen, he just doesn't want to lose you. I'm guessing that he is giving you a hint, that he wants you to get used to going to bed early to prevent partying, drugs, and everything. He cares, but it's natural.