I hate my mom... Please help me out?

Question

I really hate my mom... Most of the time. I hardly ever get along with her.

She's constantly putting me down.

Just an hour again, she had her friends come over to play poker.

After her friends left we were all talking (me,sister,mom), and my sister and I were poking fun a her. She doesn't care when we do this, she thinks it's funny. After I said something to her, she told me I was just jealous that she had friends over, and I don't have any friends. We just moved to a new town, and I only have like 3 good friends here, so it made me feel really bad, and she knew it would.

She's always telling me I'm lazy, and I don't help around the house, but I do help!

She thinks it's funny when she puts me down like that. She's like a big bully. I try to get out of the house whenever I can. Mostly I go to my Grandma or Aunt's house. We all live on the same street.

But I think they get a little annoyed with me because I'm there so much. (more than I am home usually)

The only other way to get away is school. It doesn't start until next week though.

-My room wasn't totally clean today. My mom is a neat freak!

She called me a nasty pig because my room wasn't spotless.

I'm a teengaer, of course my room is going to be a little messy.

It's not even that bad!

I really hate her sometimes.

My dad would never do anything like that, but he doesn't try to stop her either.

Can someone help me?

What should I do?

Answer 1

First, I don't care if she thinks it's funny, you shouldn't be making fun of her. She might just be laughing it off. Treat people with respect and they will do the same to you. Second, get over it. Some people are neat freaks, most mom's are. Deal with it.

Answer 2

well you are not trying to be nice either i can see and its hard to get into the middle of that. i am not sure if shes being mean or being treated badly herself and telling you to.

Answer 3

My mom is alot like that sometimes. I am always doing something wrong with her. always. she is always right no matter what. everyone else in the world is a sick, sick, person but my mom is flawless. whatever. I am a neat freak. so my room is perfect. yet somehow i'm always the pig. my room is cleaner than hers!!!! and she gets mad at me for litterally no reason!!!!!!!! here is a typical conversation after she starts being a ******:

me: "mom?!? what did I do? why are you so mad at me? you've been mad all day!"

my mom: "oh what? so now you can tell ME how I feel?"

me: "well in the words of my 'dear' mother, *in high squeaky mock-vioce* it's not what you say it's what you do!"

my mom: "yes, exactly"

me: "OMG what did i do you've been mad since i got up in the morning i didnt do ANYTHING!!!!"

my mom: "oh no you NEVER do anything" (sarcastically, of course)

then she tells me to go away. what the h**l is wrong with her?!?!?!? I didnt do anything and since she's some kind of physco ****** mom she is going to blame her pathetic problems on me.  anyway, i suppose i do love my mom. she's just a b*tch. anyway, if you wanna talk, email me anytime at:

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good luck!

Answer 4

some mother are just b*tches. i hate to break it to you - but you have to put up with it until you are able to move out!

Answer 5

ignore.ignore.ignore. when she says that just leave walk around and then come back go to your room and just dont talk.sorry i cant help more

Answer 6

Just try to keep your room clean as much as you can. Also talk to your mom on how she is making you feel. Let her know that it really bothers you when she puts you down. You should be able to express yourself. Also keep in mind that you would start school soon and be making new friends.  

Answer 7

I know it can seem like your mom hates you and that she hates you, but atleast your not being abused, if you really hate it talk to your mom. You poke fun with her, mabey she's just playing your game? She's just being a typical mother, nothing wrong with that, enjoy yourself while your young.

Answer 8

sit her down and say "mom i really don't appreciate you treating me like c**p." if she doesn't respond or jus ignores you, you can go to court if its to serious. if not. stay at a girlfriends house for a day or two. you can wait and soon enough you'll get your driver's license so you can get out of the house whenever you need to.

Answer 9

It seems like your mom might have been defending herself...you and your sister were making fun of her.  If you want your mom to respect you, you should respect her.  Your parents pay for you in every aspect of your life...at least you could do is keep your room clean! (Being a teenager is NOT a reason...it is a lazy excuse!)  You also should help out around the house...that is what family members do.  Try to look at life from your mom's perspective once in a while.  Sorry, but what you are saying sounds a little bratty.

Answer 10

my step dads worse! he always sticks up for my sisters and when ever they do somethin wrong he gets up me for it! just b4 he heald me up to the car waving his fist at me! he smothers me under pillows, trys to drown me under the water (thats why i hav a fear of going into pools) and he chokes me till i pass out. and when my mums around he acts nice to me (sometimes), she doesnt belve me but, so if you think you got it bad, try havin my parents!

Answer 11

Type this and put it on the fridge:

A mother's love is priceless to a child.

The value can not be measured unless

it is totaled by the number of smiles.

A mother's love is not rewarded by possession,

but by how much is given.

A mother's love shows in their child,

it gleams in their eyes.

A mother's love is unconditional,

it flows free without restraint.

A mother's love doesn't stop, nor waiver,

it stays with the child forever.

Everything that a mother does or says affects her child from the day it is born until the day that child becomes a mother and passes it on.

If this does not make her rethink her behavior...I do not know what will.

Best wishes

Answer 12

umm..we all hate our parents my mom acts the exact same way, i know it totally sucks but sorry there is nothing we can do except wait until we turn 18 and move the h**l out

Answer 13

I think you should talk to your dad about how you feel about how she treats her. And maybe he can talk to her about calming down on the harsh words.

Answer 14

Hi

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, with your mom.  Honestly, right now is probably the hardest time of your teenage years. You are right in the middle of becoming a woman, and it's really, really hard to adjust to all the feelings you are having at this time.

People are going to say things that just don't seem to fit how you see yourself.  I've found that some parents, be it mom or dad, really don't have the mental time to see whats going on with their kids.

So I think it's a two way street.  It hurts your feelings, and mom just can't comprehend why. But when you have a sister or brother who is 'perfect' in their eyes it don't help either.

What you should do is, be yourself, enjoy your life, and don't let her nagging get you down to where you are so controlled by her words.  Respect your mom, but, more than any thing, know that you are a beautiful person, and you are a good person, doing the best you can do in the situation that your in.

Focus  your attention on things you like doing, be busy, have fun, and just do what you know you are suppose to do,and things will be ok.  

Good Luck and Take Care!

Katie

Answer 15

Sounds like maybe you're being a tad bit too sensitive. I noticed you don't mention what it was you said to mom first, but I'm guessing it was something not so very nice.

The easy solution here, is if you don't want mom teasing you back, which is what I'm sure she was doing when you were supposedly "teasing her", then don't joke with her. Stop picking on her, and she won't pick on you.

Furthermore, if you know moms a neat freak, then why not just do as you're expected to, and CLEAN your room? Of course she called you a pig if your sleeping in dirt and filth (I know teenagers ideas on "not that bad").

Dad isn't stopping her because he knows she's right to get onto you about you not doing your chores. Now, shake it off, toughen up.. go clean your room, and try learning to TALK to your mom about your issues rather than running off to grandma's, aunt's or school.  

Answer 16

that's a tough one.  what you need to do is actually tell her, i know that your probably thinking " yea right she wont listen" you have to MAKE her listen sit her down and tell her everything your feeling let her know shes hurting you and how it makes you think of her[ but do NOT be nasty in any way, dont raise your voice unless you have to be respectful] and also watch what you say..maybe think about what your goign to say and everything that could happen and how you'll react to it before you talk to her...also maybe have another person there to help you out?..someone who understands what your going through.. your dad maybe? talk to him first....jsut try your best and remember " everthing happens for a reason" maybe this is a task to make you stronger  and help you stick up for yourself later in life.. you never know jsut try your best good luck :)

Answer 17

Well this, your mom does not sound so nice, and I don't know what I can tell you... I would just ignore her, and continue what you are doing. Stay at your aunts house as possible... Also try to be as nice to your mom as possible, even if she treat you as dirt. And hopefully within time your mom would respect you more... Well hope this helps...

Answer 18

She knows how to get to you. She has some kind of grudge.Nothing like having grandparents near by.  

Answer 19

Have you talked to your mom about it? If you havent yet, try that. If things dont get better, maybe its time to move in with your aunt or grandma. Your mom sounds like she has some serious issues.

Answer 20

Wow my mom sounds just like yours! I'm a teenager to, and im constantly getting yelled at for EVERYTHING even when it's not my fault or i dont do anything! I used to get so frustrated from listening to my annoying mom that i kinda just learned how to tune her out, listen to music, it helps. And get out of the house and take a walk or go to the park or somewhere in town to get away once in a while.

good luck ;)

Answer 21

sometimes i feel the same way what i did is wrote a poem about how i felt and left it sitting around her so she can read it and she did and she understood me but sometimes its not that easy go to someone you can trust and somebody that cares and talk to them about it or see if you can move in with them or have a big discusion with your mom and try to settle things down