I hate my sister and..?

Question

She's so selfish, if she doesn't benefit from doing something nice, she won't do it. She only cares about her self, and what she's doing next, and what she needs.

My mom just got surgery, and my dad works, and we need to help her, I've been doing everything for her, other then driving her places. My sister is like "Well, she isn't doing anything for me, why should I help her?" I really hate her. She makes me feel like I'm worthless. I fight with her all the time, and my mom cries about it. My sister is eighteen, and she can't do anything for herself, she can't cook her own dinner, butter her own bagel, and I'm only fourteen. It's not fair that I have to do everything because all my sister cares about is herself, she gets whatever she wants, my parents baby her. I'm really tired of this house, I cry myself to sleep almost every night because of her, and I really just want to kill myself.

Answer 1

you drive at 14 years old?

and maybe you can not talk to her  

Answer 2

She sounds like she is apart of my family. Just know your doing the right thing to help ur mom at the most important time in her life. She might be jealous of you because sometimes the younger kids get all the attention, and you sound like ur younger than her. Just forgive her and let go of the things she does because she may have deeper issues you may not know about. YOUR LIFE IS WORTHY were human at are worst moments we relize theses are the bad time and there going to get better and we move on to better things.

Answer 3

You are clearly overwhelmed and dealing with tough emotions.  You can call 1-800-273-talk, this is a suicide prevention number.  they will hear you out and hopefully offer some ways to deal with you frustrations.

What you must remember is that you can not change anyone else.  She's not a nice person, but you're going to have to live with her.  Take care of yourself and help your mom as best as you can.  

Find someone that you feel you can trust and talk to when you are super stressed - Do you have an aunt or other adult female that you can talk to?  

Answer 4

I know how you feel, I stopped having anything to do with one of my sisters because I was tired of her hatefulness. It has been 18 years and my health improved since I have stopped putting up with her and mother both.  My mother spend most of my life making me feel worthless or stupid and my sister just plain hated me for being alive or whatever.  It is rough especially because you are 14, an age that needs a lot of support because of having to adjust to teenage angst and hormones.  But just look at what your sister became.  I mean she had a lot of  "love and support" at your age and became a bit of a frankenstien's monster.  I hope you will take her as a role-model of the king of person that you DON'T want to be!  By the way, what kind of surgery did your mom have? Is she unable to do much of anything for herself?  Maybe you should talk to your dad and tell him it is too much for you and that you need someone dependable to help mom-for mom's safety.  As for sister,  just keep telling yourself you will be gone soon and on your own, and much more able to care for yourself than the diva ever will. What you are going through right now is one day going to pay off, and you will be able to hold your head up.  You know what, YOU ROCK, because you are caring for mom!!!  Your sister SUCKS majorly!!! and she will be sorry--just you wait and see.  

Answer 5

loved your sister, n0 matter what happen, she is still your sistEr!!

take care!♥

Answer 6

awh girl everything will be okay! who cares about your sister. At least you know your helping out your mother and thats all that matters. Just dont even think about her. You are doing the right thing and she is not. Just stay strong! Talk to her or your mom about it! Hope everything works out!  

Answer 7

my sister used to mess with me she is twice my size and i smashed her head in to a wall but if you are not a very strong fighter say to your mum that if this doesn't stop you are going to call child line  0800 1111 and they will put you on to  social services

Answer 8

don't hate your sister! seriously! it sounds like things are pretty hard at your house right now. and since your dad works and your mom just got surgery she probably isn't getting enough attention. definitely don't kill yourself! it will make things harder for your family and it wont make anything better. your still young and you have so much ahead of you!  everyone has rough patches in their life. and things will get better. talk to your mom about your sister and tell her how you feel. maybe you should start making your sister do things for herself so she will have to learn how to if she wants them done. good luck!  

Answer 9

mhm.....

well id say to try to ignore her and just say yes to everything she says

...and about ur parents talk to them

...o and if dat doesnt work id say to take out all your anger to ur sister ...i did dat and she didnt really do it anymore just .....say that ur ***** tired of all her bull **** !  and you will probably take it from there  

Answer 10

dont worry your not alone. my sister is the exact same way and you cant even talk to her without her having an attitude. and i just want to backhand her but i cant you just have to deal with it i know its hard.  

Answer 11

your sister will be the biggest loser in the end as in she will regret not being more helpfull and supportive, all you can do for now is be there for your mum as im sure you want to be, and believe it or not YOU are the one thats going to come out the best as you unlike your sister are more matture and obviously a more giving person (im not saying your sister isnt but for now you are) and maybe focus this as an experience into health care as in nursing, teaching or even being a doctor, you sound to me like you have the best qualities of a nurse!!xxxx but dont be mad at your sister,shes your family and it will all work out, just a little bit more growing up on both parts to understand eachother!! you will end up being best friends forever!!xx