I hate my sister-in-law?

Question

but my husband adores her, sometimes i get jealous because he defends her, i understand it's his sister but she's a total bi**ch.......i can't stand her and feel like if he keep defending her I am just leaving, what should i do, this has being going on for a while.......grrrrrr

Answer 1

what has she ever done to you?!

Answer 2

I can totally relate to you.  I too hate my sister-in-law and my husband is always being nice to her and treating her kindly even though she said some unwarranted thing about me and my family. He knows what she said was wrong and that it bothers me and makes me really angry, but he doesn't try to make his sister apologize.  He let her get away with it.  And because of that, sometimes when I look at my husband, I hate him.  I hate him for being related to his sister. I hate him for taking her side. I hate him for letting her get away with her despicable statements.  I hate him for not putting her in her place. I especially hate when he wants to spend time with her.  

But at the end of the day, I continue to tell myself to let it go.  This is his sister and there’s no getting her out of the picture.  I try to pretend she doesn’t exist.  I try not to talk about her or bring her up in conversation.  And if my husband starts talking about her, I keep my mouth shut and let him go on about her.  I don’t say anything because I know that whatever comes out of my mouth will end up in an argument.  It’s not worth it.  Why let this insignificant person ruin my marriage with my husband?  At the end of the day, my husband is with me.  He loves me and I love him despite his relationship with his sister.   No family a person marries into is perfect.  

Answer 3

Not knowing details, maybe your personal feelings get in the way of seeing the real situation.  Maybe when your husband defends her its deserved.  Thats not saying shes not a *****.  I'm just saying that since you don't like her the least little thing she does seems major to you.  You need to have a family sit down and talk things out.  It would be sad and stupid as h**l to end a marriage over something so stupid.