I hate my son's girlfriend! How do I get rid of her?

Question

My son's girlfriend is a horrible s**t. She wears unbelievably showy clothes. She says bad words all the time. Everything about her is fake. Her hair is dyed blonde and highlighted pink, she wears heavy heavy eyeliner, and she has lots of piercings. Plus she's 14 and he's 17. Last night she snuck into his room, because her parents grounded her. I heard a noise came upstairs and saw her. I told her she could stay the night on the couch. I want to get rid of her, but I also don't want to be one of those psycho crazy moms. Am I?

Answer 1

I think its ignorant for a parent to decide who the kid is or isnt allowed to date now their are a reasonable boundries that you need to set but cutting them off compleatly will drive him to hate you. i wouldnt have let her stayed the night and i wouldnt call her parents the second you get all mean at her is when he will start rebellin against you. the more you say yes the more they will want to be together actualy the second you say no to him is the second he will say yes to himself. The whole fakeness and cursing is understandable about how she is a bad person and not the greatest person you want for your son. but who cares what she looks like piearcings okay what does that say, she likes pericings? she thinks its cool or in style at her age,  thick eye liner blonde hair with pink highlights she is trying to fight into the "scene" cadegory and is trying to look good for her older boyfriend by looking more appealing. everybody curses alot expecially around their age. but the bad behavior will become encoruaged the more you go against it. if you say your arent allowed to see her anymore because she is a bad influence and bla bla bla he will go straight back to her and say my mom said im not allowed to see you but i love you and i dont care what she says. im actualy right now 17 and i like a 14 year old and i just told my mom about how i want to respecfully go along with this relationship but she said she dosent like it and thinks we should get to know eachother better which i agree to wait a month or 2 but the second she said no to me. the more it made me want to make it work.

In a nut shell. who cares what she looks like that dosent define who she is just the way she wants to show herself which is a "s**y scene girl" dont let her stay the night again, i would do the alarm system thing. let her get home herself because if you get his girlfriend in trouble then he is going to be ticked off at you. let their relationship go the way it is. they are sneakin around and the way you describe her sounds like she dosnt know who she is.

let it go the more you go against it the harder he will try to keep it together.