I hate my step mom and step brother?

Question

I have a step mom and she has been my step mom for over 10years now and I can't stand her. I love my dad with all my heart but it p*sses me off to see stuff like him paying for everything. She is so unapreciative and it seems like she is pmsing 80% of the time. I have talked to my dad about it and theres nothing he really does. I meen it seems unrealistic for him to leave her after having such a long term relashionship with her. And my step brother is a pain in the a** and i cant stand him. I am a very nice person and i feel like just talking back to her but i never gather enouph courage to do somthing to make her p*is*ed off im usually the type of guy that goes with the flow but I have had enouph im tired of being nice to them and pretending everything is ok she is a b**ch and if had enouph. What should I do im only 13?

Answer 1

live with it, its only another 5 yrs til college

Answer 2

u should try to just spend less time around ur family and focus more on friends or just sports or whatever than u wouldn't have to be around them. and if u don't want to loose touch with ur dad just ask him to have some alone time with u every other saturday or whenever is good 4 u...

i hope this helps....

Answer 3

I can't feel your pain right now, because it hasnt happened to me, but my friend had the same problem. If you can, you can try to ignore both of them, or go strait up front to your dad, firm voice, and say that you need to talk to him. Tell him all your problems and say that if he doesnt do anything, you will never find a way to forgive him. Fathers have soft spots somewhere. My friend stopped talking to her step-mom until her step mom complained that she wasnt talking to her, and her dad said to her step mom that she's not giving my friend a chance. So you can pick to try to be patience, or you can go straight up to it.

Answer 4

that's not a question

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Answer 5

if you've delt with it for 10 years you can wait 5 more years until your 18 and you can get out of your house.

good luck buddy.

Answer 6

i have a mom who is like a step mom. I am 14. I hate her and i wish i had a real step mom instead, at least then i cud have hated her as u do and the people wud  have supported me. Isn't my situation worse than yours??

So i think just like me u have no much choice until u r grown up enough to leave the house and live on your own. I am studying very hard so that i can get a scholarship and study in a good boarding school away from her constant bickering, arguments and overprotectiveness. I advise you  to do the same. Time ususally flies. You have somehow put up with her for past 10 years, another few won't really matter much. good luck buddy

Answer 7

I think if it was my dad I would leave things alone and try to get along .Its so hard to find someone these days.Its better for you dad to have someone than not to.One day you are going to have your own life and stuff and it than will be best for your dad to have your step mom.Things will get better when you are older

Answer 8

I am sorry this is happening.  I had the step mother from h**l, the worst person I ever met.  Greedy, bigot, liar, big and fat and always used the N. word to describe Black people.   So horrible.  She turned out to be a gold digger too, took everything of my family's.  So in your case, don't rock the boat.  Just be nice.  Take it as well as you can.  When you turn 18 you can move out.  Go to college someplace else, get a job.  Seriously, you will need your own money, step parents are the ultimate worst.  

Answer 9

talk to your guidance counselor at school. they are very good and can give you the resources to survive this.

Answer 10

Learn to spell for one thing.

I'm 13 too, and that is no excuse for that kind of spelling!

Answer 11

well i suggest you try and talk to your dad more and tell him how you feel like for real and just try and ignore her and him but later on if they really get on your nerves tell your dad that you've had it with them and if he doesn't do something about it you'll get to the point were you start talking back i should know im also 13 hope i helped

Answer 12

pray bout it

Answer 13

Be yourself but also be careful it could turn back on you so just carry on being you  all of the time regardless.

Answer 14

If you love people where their at all the time things get better. I had similar problems with my family and I just started going out of my way to love them first and everything has changed. They are the first to be there for me now. Serve people. Love people where they are at.

Answer 15

well if you have talked to your dad and nothing has changed then tell your step mom and step brother  in a nice and respectful way what bothers you. you never know they may change. it may take your step brother longer to change but your step mom is old enough to handle it better but do it in a respectful and nice way. dont blow up at her. i had a step mom and two step brothers and one step bro i didnt get along with and my step mom was very mean to my dads kids but treated her kids like gold. well we (by blood bro and sis and I) sat down with the "steps" and told them how we felt and slowly but surely things did change. good luck!

Answer 16

chillax first. this stuff happens, you're not the only one. and y do u hate ur step mom? my advice would be to be a REBEL ...yup u heard right, if they rlly p**s u off, then its ur turn to p**s them off..but don't hurt your dad in any waii, but make him realize that this lady pisses u off, and isn't good for him. OR jus discuss this out in a nice and orderly manner with ur dad, which i doubt iz gnna get u anywhere

Answer 17

You don't have to p**s either of them off to make a stand- just firmly tell your step mum that you feel she is being unfair and taking advantage of your dad, and if she really loved and respected him she would chip in and be more helpful.

Remember with her not being your real mother it will be difficult for her too, she may not realise how she is acting, so as hard as it is... do try to be understanding.

As for your stepbrother- uhh my brother is SO annoying! But i find just not reacting to his childish comments and rising above him makes him give it a rest. Just try and ignore him and if he pisses you off- walk away. do not argue or you will just get even more pissed, and it makes you as bad as him.

all you can do really is keep out of their way and get on with your own thing, explain to your dad just how much this is getting to you and that maybe he can set boundaries for you step brother to give you some space.

i'm sorry to hear this bubs =[

good luck and i hope ur ok

if u want me to answer anything else feel free to say =]

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Answer 18

Ok I have had the same Problem in my life when i was 12 , the way what did it for me is that i ignored everything they said to me , and i Delt with it until i was 15 , one time my step mom started shouting at me really bad one time , but as i got older i new i had to stop this so , i talked back at her , she never said anything to me again after that , but now i seem to get on with her

"Hope this Helps Bro Good luck"

Answer 19

I hate my step mom too shes a total *****. She made my dad kick me out. Can you go live with grandma or something? Go to therapy.

Answer 20

you can either sweat it out for 5 more years and then go to college, or talk to your dad more about this. maybe you can be super nice and sugary to your step mom every time she's mean to you. that will annoy her the most. same goes with your step bro

Answer 21

You need to get over the childish behavior and try to get along with your step mother.  she does not sound like any thing out of the ordinary and you come off sounding like a whiny little b**** yourself.  I just bet you don't talk back but you act as sullen and mean as you can to let everyone know how bad you feel.  So you feel bad and you want to make everyone miserable too.  You cannot be that much of a nice person if you have so much anger and dislike for everyone in your family.  You also do not care much for your dad and his feelings if you are treating his wife so badly and disrespectfully as you sound here.   You need to get off the rag and give your step mother a break.  After all she has put up with you attitude for 10 years right?  

And as for the step brother  step or no that is just the nature of brothers little or big.  Most sisters can't stand their brothers but it does not mean they do not love them.  You need to try and find the love and your life will not be so sour.  You are only 13 so some of this is horomones and some of this is baby and some of it is b****.  You need to ride out the first one and get over the second and third.  Grow up  Life is what you make it meaning 90% is how you perceive it to be,  Think you live in h**l and you do.  Think you live in heaven and so it shall be.

Answer 22

why dont you play mind games with them, and drive them insane.  

Answer 23

talk to your step mom and step bro...it can be difficult at first but maybe you can trust them even more and get on really well!  

Answer 24

so she has been your step mom for 10 years almost all of your life

I hate to tell you this but you would still hate her even if she was you mom usally at 13 you hate everyong the next 5 years will go fast and then you can leave

yelling at her or saying you hate her will only make things worse  

Answer 25

5 more years nd ur out=]haha

juss tell her  

Answer 26

now I've been in your situation. now when they p**s up off next time, yell, but make a point. don't make up thing. you need solid facts and examples. make a list of things your angry about. plan the speech, let them all have it! give them a piece of  your mind! it's not your fault, and u need 2 address that also. and because your so young, about my age, you cant move out. so, try to get a friend to let you stay at their place. maybe the rest of the school year, just a month, or just a week. what ever works for you, not your family, you. then when the time comes, you'll just have to deal with them until you can move out for good. but i give you my luck and use my advice wisely. if u don't do this correctly, u WILL end up in  huge trouble, so u need 2 do it wisely

Answer 27

leaRN TO LOVE THEM

Answer 28

you need to have a sit down with every one and tell them how you feel, your growing up and those feeling you have sounds like there ready to blow, before it does just have a sit down and tell everyone how you feel but also tell them what you love about them and aslo tell them what displeases you about them,(never use the word HATE) and go from there,,,good luck