I hate my stupid childish husband. he got upset because my brother and i were joking about us eating beans?

Question

for breakfast everyday. he was just saying he know theres alot of gas in our house good thing none of us smokes. just a friendly joke between brother and sister. my husband got upset saying were talking about his mom and i should be thankful that shes helping me out(i had a baby 2months ago) he said i was being ungraceful WTF. really did i do something wrong?

Answer 1

Who do you mean by "us" Do you mean you and your hubby or you and your mother n law? I don't understand why he would think you were talking about his mom? If it was just a joke between you and your brother then he shouldn'tget upset. It sounds like there may be more to the story. Were you guys joking and maybe it seemed to your hubby as you were making fun of his mom?

Answer 2

My husband is the same way. He takes everything out of context. yours is prob. just on edge bec. of the new baby and his mother being around all the time. In this case i would let him have his temper tantrum and make sure u let his mother know u are greatful for her help and taking the time to help with the new baby. (get her a nice gift)This way you are not fighting with your husband and making him look like an *** by showing his mother how greatful u are.  

Answer 3

I can see both sides.  If his mom is cooking & helping it does kind of sound like you were making fun of her.  Maybe he's a little sensitive about that & you came off almost like maybe his mom makes cheap food or something?  I don't know.

I'm hyper sensitive about certain things too.  I used to BBQ every weekend & have everyone over.  I always made rib eye steaks, Italian sausage, grilled asparagus, and pasta.  One time I screwed up the pasta & it was sticky.  The next weekend someone asked what was for dinner & my husband's brother said "probably meat & sticky pasta".  It was a joke & everyone laughed but I seriously wanted to smash his face in with the plate.  Those people were eating on my dime every weekend without lifting a finger.  It pissed me off.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are married to a man with a dry sense of humor. My husband does not like to talk about gas and neither does his family. My family on the other hand has wrote the book on farts and that's just they way they are and I can't help it. Our grandson takes after my family and he drives his gradpa crazy with his gas but I can't help that either. I sware some people are just to serious in life and it would do them all some good to break wind and get a life sweetie.

Answer 5

Yessssssssssss Chili Beans I hope!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Wooo hooo for beans!  

Answer 6

Seems like your husband needs to stop assuming and just chill out and take a joke. Life can't be all serious or we'd be walking around all bent out of shape like he is, tell him to ease up and laugh some times.

Answer 7

Sounds like you and your brother were the childish ones. You did insult his family even if it was a joke.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Eating beanus is no laughing matter.

Answer 9

Well, since none of us were there, it's a little difficult to determine whether you were wrong or if he was wrong .... but I can pick up on some of the undertones of your question that you were making fun in a crude joking way.

Many truths are spoken in jest.

And remember, you were joking about his mother's cooking.  Most men are extremely defensive about their mothers and their wives.  Perhaps in the future you might think before you speak.

Answer 10

Tell him to get over it its not like you comitted a crime, GEESHHH!!

tell him that if he continues to get upset  and stress out over things like that all the time, that he's going to get a build up of gas himself and he might blow up,LMAO!!!

Answer 11

He must of thought you were making fun of her, That she is too "mexican" to be cooking beans everyday. Just tell him you didn't mean it like that. But since you do know this makes him upset don't do it again, especially with your brother. It's like your both making fun of his mom!

Answer 12

she must be cuban?

yea most guys get a little sensitive and stuff like that

Answer 13

1. Tell your husband to trust you.

2. Tell him, his mom and your mom are not different.

3. Tell him - you love him.

4. Tell him - you trust him.

5. Tell him - you love him.

Answer 14

your husband's reaction had nothing to do with the joke between you and your brother.  your husband is obviously stressed about other things and that was just the breaking point.  i think that you should sit him down and talk to him and try to get to the bottom of this.

Answer 15

Yeah your husband overreacted a bit.  I can't help but think there's some other reason for his overreaction -- like he's upset about something else?

Why not sit down and ask him if anything is bothering him, and ask him why he got so upset about the comment.  Maybe he'll open up.

Good luck.