I hate myself because I keep attracting the wrong people?

Question

I hate myself because I keep attracting the wrong people?

Answer 1

Don't hate  yourself.  Be glad that you know the kinds of people you considered WRONG.

Now, here's the hard part:  Stay away from these people.  For some reason, it is YOU who are attracted to these people.  

Look inside your head and see why you tend to gravitate toward these people, and not another group.  Are they attractive, yet have no substance?  Do they appear to have a lot of confidence, but no hearts?  Do they appear to NEED you, yet show no appreciation?

What character traits are YOU attracted to?  

Answer 2

who do u attract

Answer 3

this isn't a question, it's a statement, but I would say you have it all backwards.  Your self image is what attracts the wrong element.  In other words you attract the wrong people BECAUSE you hate yourself.  People worth knowing aren't interested in someone who is self destructive and always negative.  Suggest you might benefit from seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist, they can teach you skills for changing what you don't like in yourself.

Answer 4

keep hating yourself...that's the ticket

Answer 5

you can't help who you attract. dont be so hard on yourself.

Answer 6

Maybe it's because you hate yourself.

Answer 7

change your environment. if you go somewhere where there are people you like and enjoy maybe you'll have better luck

Answer 8

  people only do to you what you let them.

lack of self esteem leads to taking what ever people dish out. get some help from a  counselor or ?

Answer 9

Who you "attract" is not your fault - who you choose - is. If you keep choosing the wrong type (and they are all similar types) then it may indicate that you need counseling.  Often who we select is reflective of the type/quality of relationship (or lack thereof) we had as a child with our opposite s*x parent.  Before a person is able to have a quality relationship the person needs to has his/her "bugs" worked out and counseling is the best place to do that. Otherwise it will be learning from trial and error in numerous sequential relationships.

Answer 10

It's not your fault! Although, trust me, do not ever resort to dating sites. But there is someone for everyone, just wait for it =P

Answer 11

this isnt a question... its a statement.

Answer 12

WOW! never say u hate ur self no matter what.......u can't help who's attracted to u......just pick out the once u like and keep it going......

Answer 13

dont be such a passive persion and stop hating ur self cuz its not gonna help. just make sure u let the other person know what u want or what ur interests are. just take ur time i bet ur still young theres nohing o worry about

and make sure dont let the other hurt ur feelings cuz if they do dont worry about it theres only one of u and many others

Answer 14

change your type of people u hang around

Answer 15

/wrists?

Answer 16

You may be attracting the wrong people because you "hate" yourself. Take some big steps in your life that will make you love yourself and the attraction to "wrong" people will also disappear.

Answer 17

Dont be so hard on your self there is a reason your life is happening and dating the guys your dating.  My theroy

" God wrote your life story, So let him read it to you" Dont try to change it just live it

Answer 18

Amber, do not hate yourself. Life is too short to waste any of it on those types of feelings. If the wrong people are attracted to you, it doesn't mean you have to go out with them.

Good luck to you.  

Answer 19

try to go for the complete opposite, try something new and who knows where it could lead up, could be true love

Answer 20

add some more detail. what do u mean?

Answer 21

u r probably very pretty ur man will come around someday soon and don't be so hard on yourself

Answer 22

Well, if you attract the wrong people that means you are at least attractive.  Look at it this way...the ones you go out with are on you (you said "ok") and the ones you don't go out with don't matter if they are attracted to you or not.  Maybe the right ones ARE attracted, but they just don't know how to make their attraction apparent?

Answer 23

Are you attracting the wrong people or are you attracted TO the wrong people.  Sounds like you need to do some serious self-evaluation to determine what behavior is causing the wrong people to be attracted to you - or why you are attracted to the wrong kind of people.  And you need to define for yourself what the "right" and "wrong" kind of people are and why you feel they are the "right" and "wrong" kind of people.  Maybe the problem is with your view of yourself, rather than your view of others.  

Good luck.  

Answer 24

maybe try keeping a journal of something and try to figure what you do to draw there type of people in to your life also make a list of things you know you don't want in and keep them in you mind so that when a person does one of these thing it will almost raise a red flag and then tell your self i know this is not what i want and it might make it easier for you to walk away

Answer 25

dont say you hate yourself.. be confident in yourself.. be yourself.. be who you are and like it.. you are who you are for a reason, you meet the people you do for a reason.. good luck

Answer 26

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