I hate that i can't stay faithful?

Question

why do i keep falling for any and every women that shows any interest in me, whether i'm in a relationship or not?

i can't help myself. i've already ruined a marriage because of this, haven't learned my lesson and now i'm in a long distance relationship but have recently become infatuated with two different women.

i really wish i wasn't like this, my life would be so much simpler. i wouldn't end up hurting all these women that i feel so strongly for and i'd feel much better about myself but i can't help convincing myself how great this would be with the next women who walks into my life.

what's wrong with me?

Answer 1

Nothing is wrong with you.  But you need to acknowledge and accept the fact that you're not ready for a commitment.  Be honest with yourself and your significant other.  You shouldn't be in any relationship until YOU are ready.

Answer 2

You are a self centred idiot!!!! Men like you should be shot!!!

Answer 3

You can stay faithful you just choose not to.

Answer 4

im like that too.

But if u remember

how much u love that special

person..u can hold urself back

Answer 5

nothing is wrong with you; you just haven't met the right women for you; don't make it so complicated; it is what it is, just be honest with yourself

Answer 6

Nobody here can tell you why you're the way you are.  If you really want to make a change, you should seek therapy to help you get to the root of your issues causing you to sabotage relationships.  Good luck, and I hope everything works out well for you.

Answer 7

First of all you are not alone. No one is perfect. The first step to making a change in your life is acknowledging you have a problem.

It sounds like you have a serious issue with commitment. It isn't the fact you are looking for the next best thing, it is more you are afraid to settle down and commit to one person. This can stem from your childhood as result of losing a parent to divorce or death.

The only way you can beat this problem is to work through it with a therapist. Something this ingrained takes the help of a professional. However you are not a lost cause. It will just take time and a lot of effort on your part to make a change in your life. You are going to have to learn to rewire your brain and face your issue head first.

Good Luck

Answer 8

I think you might have a self esteem issue. You constantly seek the attention and approval of more and more women to help boost your self image, while at the same time you hate that you act that way. You need to talk to a professional who can give you some insight as to why you treat women the way you do.

Answer 9

Nothing is really "wrong" with you but you do have some serious relationship and commitment issues. It could be something that happened in your past that you had no control over. I suggest that you talk to someone, maybe a professional, if you ever want to overcome this and live a happy, monogamous life.

Answer 10

If you were only experiencing these feelings while dating I could understand thinking that "you haven't found the right woman".  However, given that this is obviously a continual and ongoing issue that has destoyed not only relationships but a marriage as well, there are obviously more serious issues going on.  As to what is "wrong" with you...  That's probably a question that needs to be taken up with a therapist.  There may be some deep issues that you're unaware of.  Perhaps therapy could help you discover and overcome whatever is holding you back from maintaining a loving and committed relationship.

Answer 11

you dont sound like you can handle commitment,

Answer 12

You don't want to be a man, simple as that, there is no other reason for what  you are doing. Did you have no role model {male} when you were younger? Were you neglected.? You are acting like a wounded, abandoned child, you need to see a doctor or therapist right away. This is not normal and men dont do it. Only boys that want to be boys. You are the male women love to hate and do hate. Don't you want respect,? you hate yourself and your life or you wouldn't be doing this. You have acknowledged it and that is the first step and I respect and give you a lot of credit for that. The best of luck to you.  

Answer 13

Sounds to me like you don't really want to change. You're like a kid in a candy store. No offense intended, but if you really want to change try going to church. And please don't have any children right now.

Answer 14

You'll be what you choose to be and do what you choose to do. If you were REALLY concerned about not doing what you claim, you'd stop without as second thought.

Answer 15

your a sexaholic man and nothing but going cold turkey and finding an interest in other areas of your life and thinking about how you make other people feel instead of yourself.  True love doesnt swing from person to person its called lust.  You will be a VERY sad man when your old and by yourself if you keep this S**t up.  My advice is try real hard to get involved in a church or some sort of fellowship and maintain cellibacy until you get to know a woman trully and be connected on a emotional level not just physical.

Answer 16

well!! i feel really bad that your like that an i hope you change because with the wrought that ur going ur never gonna be able to be invloved with someone! an your never gonna be able to where ur girl friend can no in her heart that u will be faithful to her.. in the hole way through. an ur really the only one that can tell ur self that u need to stop.. just like there is no one maken you talk to them other girls ur doing it ur self.. there aint no one holding a gun to ur head telling you to. thats why if you really love this lady an u really care for her an u wont to make something out of this then i believe its time 4 you to take a stand an realise that !! what ur doing is not right. an that you should not do it.

( i wish you great luck on it an a happy ending)

Answer 17

Sounds like you need to learn to control yourself. It gets better with age.(sometimes) But it takes practice. You kind of have to train yourself.

Answer 18

I would assume that you must be a very successful charming guy in most women’s eyes.  Women who adore you simply let you get away things. You enjoy women’s admiration and take advantage of it. In a nutshell, YOU ARE SPOILED by women!

Womanizers won’t change unless they aged or got some kind of terminal or chronic ills making them feel that they got no game anymore! (Warren Beatty was one of them!)

If you don’t want to hurt the women you have feeling with, tell them that you are a chronic womanizer up front and let them make their own choice.

The conclusion? Like Warren Beatty, never get your women pregnant and never make commitment until you are in your

60’s.