I hate this...?

Question

Ive liked this guy for like 2 years, and Im soo done!

I dont want to like him anymore, I wanted to tell him, but I know he doesnt lik me back so I dont see the point to it..

But I was doing great, chillin with my friends at the beginning of summer, and having a great time!

But when I go to sleep I dream and hes ALWAYS there!

Whether its me trying to talk to him, or him just in the background or us together holding hands, hes in my dreams every night!

It really hurts me more trying to get over him when I cant escape him even in my dreams...

If anyone can help me telling me why this is happening it would really help me :[

p.s

thats the thing is I wont have my mind on him at all! Ill be keeping myself busy and great but once I have that dream, it juss like I started all over again trying to get over him...

so if anyone can help with why he keeps appearing in my dreams.. itd be great..

Answer 1

wow! I have the same EXACT problem. i've liked this guy for a long time, it'll be 2 and a half years in july =/. and well by know i figured he doesnt like me back and i dont want to except it. i've tried getting over him but i cant help but think about him and we dont even live in the same town but i'm always dreaming about him or like constantly thinking about him. i dont want to or try to but it just always happens. It gets me so mad thinking that i waited that long for him and he doesnt even care. I hate this stuff too but the only advice i can give you that i'm trying to follow too is maybe just try finding someone else who can make you feel like that but who actually likes you back. if he lives in your town, build up the courage and go up to him one day and tell him how you feel and maybe knowing that you finally told him will allow you to let go. I've been planning on telling the guy i like this too but i only see him when the school starts at like sports events and stuff, and everytime i've tried, i chicken out =/ but i know eventually i will do it so I can finally move on with my life. who knows maybe telling him will open his eyes and he might like you back. you never know, you've liked him for 2 years and he might not have even known,  guys can be clueless lol.

              good luck hun =)

Answer 2

he is still in your dreams because honestly you still realli like him which is okay. one day you will get over him but in the meantime try to talk to him. be straight up with him and maybe you will get the results that you want. Otherwise i suggest that you try to find a new focus to preoccupy your mind with like a book or something or watch a movie before you fall asleep so you think about that instead.

Answer 3

Your mind tells you, "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." Part of yourself wants to tell you, he will like you, but if only somehow.

Answer 4

Wow. That is actually really weird.

I'm glad I'm not the only one.

The exact same thing is happening to me.

My ex and I dated for a little while. But, we were young. So it was really nothing. And there wasn't actually a real "break up" . I moved, and thats how we "broke up". A few months ago, (like...4 mos.) I realized that I was starting to have feelings for him. And I kept it to myself for a really long time. But eventually,  I told him. And he said it was fine, it made things better, if anything. But, after that, we didn't really talk as close and stuff, and the feelings went away, as I focused on another guyy. But, I'm back to himm.. and I am completely in love with him. But, is it possible for me to love someone who I haven't seen in a while?

Hmmm.. that's what I'm thinking.

And I've had MULTIPLE dreams, no so much "about" him. But he is in them, one way or another.

So... I know EXACTLY how you feel. When you dream, it is your sub-conscious  telling you something. In this case, your head is telling you that you want to get over him, but your heart knows that you honestly don't want to, and really, just aren't ready to. I know that it sounds like it will be hard, and it will be, but you really HAVE to do it. Trust me, it will feel so much better once you do... you need to tell him how you feel. And even if he shoots you down, that will be the closure that you need, and then, and only then, will you really be able to begin to get over him.

I really hoped that this helped.

And if you need anymore help... feel free to e-mail me! :)

Answer 5

It is because you have not finalized the break. You need to talk to this fellow and tell him that you wish to explore new paths since the original fire (if you ever truly had any) has gone out. Tell him that you do not see the relationship growing any more than what you had. You can still be friends but nothing more. Once the break is settled and you start to meet different people this dream should end.