I hate to socialize..?

Question

i hate to socialize.do u people think is normal? Cuz firstly i am not beautiful of whatsoever. And everytime, when i am especially, eg in sch, i will just fake a easy-going character, which is not the way i am-i am pretty tired of it. And all the people around me are all acquiantances..i got no friends. Always right after sch, i will always wanted to go straight home, read a book, sleep- i prefered home alot than sch. I always knew that people around me are always pretending- in front of u they say bad things about person 1 which maybe i dont like too and at my back they will say bad things about me maybe to person 1 and others..it just keep revolving around..i am so tired of it.. and since i am not beautiful or look nice, people around will gossip about you- and u might make an invisible enermy. And since i knew all these revolving 'talking-bad things' thingy and these 'cold' people are only my life in sch, i am really sick of it and cant be bothered.

Answer 1

Thank you so much for posting this ( but i do not think badly of myself, I am attractive not to sound vain or anything) I hate socializing and when people converse i become easily frustrated and irritated to the point that i want to punch them out to make them shut up. (I am not afraid of people thought just annoyed and irritated.)I told my family this they said i had mental issues and that you have to socialize i life. My advice to you just be yourself, don't hang out with people who bad mouth you, if you have too just stay alone until u find the right people.

Answer 2

I think you would be surprised how many people "fake" being comfortable and easy-going in social situations. It's what is expected and considered to be "normal," so that's how people try to act. I think you would also be surprised at how many people really couldn't care less what you look like, if you're friendly to them and you want to be around them. Not everyone is a two-faced gossip, actually, even if it is human nature to talk about other people. Socializing is good for you, and also rather important. Find people with similar interests as you, and put some effort into enjoying spending time with people. And if you don't give them anything bad to say about you, then you won't have to worry about them talking behind your back. Remember, not everyone is out to get you.

Answer 3

You're an introvert. Introverts don't feel the need to socialize with the people around them because they get their energy from the inside. That's why you just talk to yourself inside.

Don't worry about other people, they probably are not talking behind your back. People like to talk about people who do something crazy or affect their life negatively. Since you keep to yourself, you don't give them much news to talk about.

Being an introvert is perfectly normal, its just a personality trait. The reason why society sees socializing as the norm is because 75% of the U.S. population is extroverted and loves to talk. The introverted 25% is the minority and can be seen as outcasts. The good news is that you don't have to socialize with others. As an introvert you are perfectly happy being by yourself and won't go insane if you don't have somebody to talk to.

Answer 4

First off it is good to understand the people around you, and if you know what they are REALLY saying it is better.  You don't need to gossip it doesn't accomplish anything so don't feel compelled to socialize in that sense.  Second, don't be someone your not. Especially voice you opinion in classes you are permitted to, that doesn't mean get defensive or aggressive, be logical.  Because even though it may seem like people are laughing, most of the time they agree inside and may change themselves for the better. Third, this goes along with being yourself.  You will make more real friends being yourself, if you are not people will only think you are who your are not.

Answer 5

You just need to find that one special person you ARE comfortable talking to. I really one have one good friend and we always talk and chat. I used to be more reserved and hardly ever talk but now i found a great friend and i dont stop.

Answer 6

I had this exact same problem. I hated to socialize just because I was shy and because I wasn't pretty and stuff either. Usually people would say just be yourself but it's kind of hard to do that. First you have to muster up some courage and have a sense of humour. Try making some friends like best friends. It made me a better person. Try to take other peoples advice. I sometimes still have this problem but I try to go along with the advice even though it can be hard. All you need is a better self esteem.

Answer 7

get used to it duplicit behaviour all your life little girl do you think it ends in high school by the gods if so you are far gone don't socialise read books draw pictures learn how to play an instrument be your own person "shatter the mold" as it were drop those "friends" and then the true ones will find you

Answer 8

Is it really true that you hate to socialize?

Or is it more accurate to say that you don't like the general course of socializing IN HIGH SCHOOL?

First, not being beautiful is completely irrelevant. Most people aren't beautiful. Most people aren't such morons that they dislike the not-beautiful.

Secondly, yes, there's a lot of phoniness and backstabbing in high school. But not EVERYONE does it.

So start paying attention to those who don't. You're right, those who do can't be trusted. You're wiser than most to get this; most people hear friends bad-mouth other people, but think they're immune, and then are later hurt.

Try to identify the others who aren't all superficial and back-bitey, and talk to them a bit.

You notice the more noisy and popular kids more than all the rest. Among those less noisy and not popular kids are some really good people. You're missing out on getting to know them.

Finally, life is NOT high school. High school is really horrible for most people, and life gets better after high school for almost everyone. People mature (most or at least many do). When you go to college, it won't be like high school at all.