I have 2 sons and was wondering how???

Question

Well my partner would like to adopted my 2 sons as his own.. But the real boys father is on there Birth Certificates.. How would this work? Is there away around it where my ex partner doesn't have to sign anything for my partner to adopt my boys?

Answer 1

In the U.S.A your ex would have to give up paternal rights of the children to your partner to adopt.If your ex is not envolved with the children he may be willing to do this without a fuss.My sisters ex sighned in a heartbeat because he no longer had to pay child support after her current husband adopted them.Good luck to you and your sons!

Answer 2

OK -- let's straighten a few things out first.  (Sorry, it's a pet peeve of mine!)  Please use the Check Spelling, or learn to spell a little better.  Next, try to use fairly correct language regarding the situation.  Your partner would like to "adopt your sons" (not "adopted").  And it's the "boys father"  (not the "real boys father")  Then there's "he is on their birth certificates" (not "there").  And, how does it make sense to you for the boys bio father to just be ignored in this situation?  (I understand that if he is a loser, it is so tempting!) But what you really want, I am assuming, is a secure future for your precious boys, right?  So you would NOT want to take legal chances with their futures.  If their father will not sign voluntarily so your husband (note this word) can adopt the boys, an attorney will have to have him served and see if he responds to the serve, etc., etc.  I sincerely hope you are not planning to introduce more possible disruptions in the boys lives by having your boyfriend try to adopt them?  Hopefully you are in a long term, stable marriage before you consider making this change in their lives.  I realize marriage within itself is certainly no guarantee, but the odds are a little more in your favor (and theirs) if their new father is also your husband.

Answer 3

What country are you in?

Answer 4

I dont think you will be able to remove the birth father from the birthcertificates, etc.. with out him terminating his rights and your partner leaglly adopting them.  This is what is called a "step-parent adoption".  This is how my half-sister was adopted by my father.

Answer 5

It can't happen unless their biological father legally abandons them.

If he's in the picture at all, I doubt he would consent to this.

It's wonderful that your partner wants to treat your sons as his own, and he should, if you are all to have a future as a family.  But you can't just shove the kids' father aside and pretend he never existed.

I have no doubt that you love your partner, and that he gets on well with the kids. But children do feel a very strong identification with their biological parents, if they know them. Even if they seem fine with it right now, they could one day resent you for having dismissed a part of their "heritage."

It's easy for you to turn the page and start anew with a new partner. From the child's perspective, they have one "real" mom and one "real" dad. Don't take that away from them.

Answer 6

Well you would have to file papers, their real father will have to be contacted if he contests the adoption, then you can go to court and present your case on why your partner should be able to adopt your children. If the judge finds that you have enough evidence then he will terminate the real fathers rights and allow your children to be adopted by your new partner. best of luck!!

Answer 7

You'd probly have to go and see, the laws are probaly different in every country

I know you dont actually want to put your kids up for adoption

But if a teenage girl got pregant and the fathers name was on the birth cert. but he justb abandond her, and she decided to put the kid up for adoption i guess she could and wouldnt need permission

Answer 8

You'll have to check with a solicitor in your country. In the US the biological father would have to have his parental rights terminated before a stepparent can adopt, either voluntarily or by court order if he can't be located.

Answer 9

I am not sure of the laws in Australia but I would think you would need there fathers permission as he still has rights.

How old are your children? Do you think they would mind you changing their names? Its their identity. What if you and your partner were to seperate, would you change there names again??

I am not having a go, I am just trying to give you some sitruations that could happen? You dont want your children to resent you in later life for changing there names. Could you maybe speak with their father?