I have 5 kids that hit and bite and push. how do i get them to stop? i have tried everything?

Question

my oldest is 10 and he has mental health problems the 5 year old may have mental health problems cuz he very highpor. the fighting and bitting is completely out of control

Answer 1

they may have ADHD..if you know they have mental problems they should be evaluated..a good beating is not always the answer..you could make it worse cause they can't always control their actions when faces with mental health issues. if your really concerned talk to your PCP and insurance carrier to see what they suggest and or what services they provide.

Answer 2

Number one.  Prayer.  God will give you the power to handle this.

Number two.  Consistency.  I have found that being consistent with discipline is one of the most important  and challenging things to do as a parent.

Lastly, You might want to check out the following website:

http://www.thetotaltransformation.com/

It might be able to help you even more.  

Hope this helped.  I'll be praying for you.

Answer 3

yeah my mom had that with us  ...she beat the **** out of us and became the top dog ...she also kept as seperate as she could get us , having us do extra school activites and having us get jobs and what not

Answer 4

a good a** wooping thats all.

Answer 5

they are frustrated. they need change and a POSITIVE one at that! try a completely different lifestyle than u have at present. i know its NOT easy. but its worth it. Give them a surprise every weekend like u could go out with them to a place where they can get invoved in a sport and happily exhaust themselves  or watch a great three dimensional movie together with loads of popcorn or do some creative artwork with them and ENCOURAGE them not critisize or u could give them small presents or u could have a water fight in your backyard and enjoy their laughter...etc.then congratulate them on their 'good' behavior while u all were enjoying and plan with them about your next weekend AND make them realize with a hug, kiss and eye contact that u feel really really happy when they are nice to each other. ALSO stress on the point that no matter how bad they are, u will ALWAYS love them because they are your children (unconditional love, that is)Set VERY easy and managable job timetables for them during the week just for the sake of saying a big WOW to them to MAKE THEM FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES!! give them UNEXPECTED hugs and kisses and u should mean them when u give them not as if 'o, do i have to?' I wish u all the luck with the poor dear souls and remember SPANKING IS PAINFUL! ......just dont be hard onthem,okay? please

Answer 6

Beat their asses I done it for years and my children are so respectful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

striptease is the answer

Answer 8

Some of them are learning the behaviour from the others...time outs and take them all to the Dr...maybe some medication is called for...

Answer 9

my mom "sat" on us and then put pepper in our mouths as punishment!

we quit that asap

Answer 10

My dad bought us each a pair of boxing gloves and let us fight it out in the yard until we were worn out!  Every time we started hitting each other, he would simply grab the gloves and tell us to go outside.  It worked rather quickly because I suspect he knew that most of the fighting was an attempt to get his or my mom's attention...throwing us out in the yard, on our own, robbed us of that advantage and we quickly realized that we couldn't count on his intervention in our squabbles.  Something about knowing that I couldn't run to dad and cry enough to get my brother in trouble (and visa verse) changed my attitude toward fighting!

I would also second the suggestion about beating the c**p out of them...not necessarily literally, but a stinging butt can do wonders for a kid's attitude.  What you need is a consistent way to make it crystal clear to your kids that biting and hitting are NOT acceptable in your house.  I'd start with the biting...sit your kids down and tell them that if they bite someone else, they will suffer a severe consequence (spanking, no sweets for a week, the loss of a favorite toy, or missing out on a special reward...for example, you might promise them all a trip to the park or their favorite ice cream store at the end of each week if they don't bite...any child that bites, doesn't get to go...or has to go and watch the others eat their treat but doesn't get any for him/herself).  May take some experimenting to find the consequence that works best for your kids, but when you find it, you'll have an easier time getting them to obey.

A final suggestion is, if possible, get them involved in martial arts.  My son had some problems with hitting (mainly me) when I started taking him to Tae Kwon Do classes a couple of years ago...the masters regularly spoke to the kids about discipline and control...about why they shouldn't hit other people (outside of class).  They also encouraged the parents to tell them about behavior problems so they could work with the kids on those issues during class.  My son is now a black-belt and hitting is simply something he doesn't do any more!

Answer 11

just dont hit them for hitting you should eliminate hitting or spanking all together if you can why cant i type deal.... remove children from the situation and have them stay away until manners apperar... have your 10yr old write essays about respect and self control.... maybe since you said you have five kids all they want is attention... they will get it however they can and dont care if its negitive or positive.... as long as for those five minutes you were theres alone..