I have 7 children and I am adopting a 8 yr old girl.?

Question

Do you think that is too much for her to come home to?

Were adopting from Russia and she doesn't speak alot of English. How do I help her feel more comfortable.

Answer 1

have them all greet her at different times instead of all at once.before she greets any children though, you need to spend some 1 on 1 time with her.

Answer 2

You have enough children.

Answer 3

I think its wonderfully you want to give a home to a Russian orphan. It will be an adjustment but one that can be done. Who knows maybe this little girl has always dreamed of having a big family and will be quite happy to have so many siblings become a big sister and a little sister all at once.   As said if she has been living in an orphanage then she will be used to a lot of other kids around, it may even make her a bit more comfortable.

Teaching your own kids some very basic words in Russian could help her adjustment. As well as teaching them a bit about Russia as well.

Answer 4

How did you ever find an agency that allowed you to adopt out of birth order?  I believe that any adopted child needs to be the absolute focus of the family for as long as he/she needs.  I don't know how you will do this with the young ages of your children, especially 2yr old twins.  I found that my adopted children do need extra time, love, attention and overall nurturing.  They deserve to be doted on, pampered, showered with love and be the absolute center of attention.  If you can do all this and raise seven other children, man, hats off to you.

Answer 5

Well if she was living in an orphanage she would be use to many children around her anyways.

Answer 6

Well my family consists of 5 children and we have a foster boy. Its very busy.... That's a little different though cause the boy speaks english.........

Yeah it will probably be a little overwhelming if she doesn't speak english.

Just make sure your own children give her some space. She doesn't want to be bombarded by 7 kids who speak a completely different language! She will gradually become more comfortable and closer to your family, just give it a little time.

Answer 7

Well that would be too mcuh for any child english speaking or not. I would definetly get a book on Russian words and teach some simple ones to your kids now like:hello, goodbye, thirsty, hungry etc. Get some pics of the internet of things in Russia and similar ones here in America for her to compare and see they are no different! I don't think she will have no problem, especially wiht all those kids of yours teaching her new words and such. Kids learn quick! :0]

Answer 8

Wow! No offense, but, don't you think you have enough children already? It would definatly be overwelming to a newcomer, especially someone foreign. I wouldn't advise it!

Answer 9

Wow.  

I support international adoption and I know many large families that function quite well, but this may be a bit much.

Children accustomed to an orphanage situation are used to having many children around, true.  But international adoptees have some major adjustments to make and you really shouldn't underestimate any of those.  

As far as not speaking English, depending on the age of your child, you may want to see if you can find a native Russian speaker to translate for the first few days.  Learn some common words and phrases, especially those that would allow the child to express his/her needs.  

I try not to tell people what to do, but personally, I would hesitate to adopt a child that will need a LOT of individual attention while your other children are so young and need so much attention as well.  The idea here is that you can meet a child's needs.  Please be certain you can do that prior to adopting.

Good luck.

Answer 10

My parents have me, and three other biological children, they have also adopted a daughter from Russia.  She was about a year when we got her, she is 7 now. How old is this little girl? Just make her feel loved, and obviously involve her things.  She is going to be overwhelmed.  You need to keep just immediate family around for a while so she gets use to everyone in the house, then you can get her familiar with other family, you just don't want to overwhelm her too much, need to take baby steps.

Answer 11

That's too many kids to give them the individual love and attention each and every one of them deserves

Answer 12

Answer Yes I do think it is far too much.

But then again you just joined, this is the only question you have asked and you dont allow email, and you have no av even...

Hmmm...

Answer 13

hmmm, unless you have some real excellent connections or references then i find it unlikely they would allow you to adopt with such young children.

Answer 14

actually, it may be overwhelming at first, although she would be overwhelmed no matter how many kids you have. at least she'll have others she can relate to, and with all those kids around she'll be picking up english words left and right! it may actually help her transition. who knows?

Answer 15

are you kidding me???? overwhelming is the biggest understatement i can conjure.

that poor kid.

i can see this was really ALL about the child.  NOT.