I have a 2 year old daughter who will not leave her baby sister alone.

Question

I have pop her and she still will not leave her alone and let her sleep. I have even told her to leave sissy alone or she was going to cry. We show our 2 year old attenetion so we know it not that we leaving her out. But everyone think because we pop her we doing it cause the new born is here. But we aint. I don't want my daughter to grow up talking back to me and tell me what to do. We in the trouble 2 stage.

Answer 1

I have a feeling that if you continue to "pop" the 2 year old who is technically still a baby herself, then she is going to "pop" the newborn.

She's 2 and she doesn't understand that she may be jealous no matter how much attention you are giving her. Plus she is curious.  The baby should be out of reach of the 2 year old unless you holding her and showing her how to touch the baby appropriately.  Watch the "popping".  Babies are learning and they like to imitate.  She's 2 and "popping" may make it worse.  She doesn't understand and is not going to remember.  Also you are associating aggressive behavior whenever she is around the baby.  Don't let her associate the two together.  

Answer 2

I have a 7,4,2, and 7.5 month old

If by pop you mean hit then I am sorry but thats the wrong way to deal with it! By hitting her your telling her you love the baby more.

My 2 yr old was 18 months when we had our baby and we incouraged her to hold and kiss her and then with her being told when she could and couldnt touch the baby she got over it and left her alone.

Good luck I know it isnt easy!

Answer 3

I am in a similiar situation. I have a 20 month old son and a 2 week old daughter. It's normal curiosity. My son is very interested in his sister right now. At their age it is very difficult to explain to them how to behave with the baby. They don't know how to be gentle or when to stop. However spanking and reprimanding don't work. At their age the best thing to do is to show the child how to act with the baby. When she wants to touch the new baby, guide her hand to show her to be gentle. Also when the baby is sleeping, say things simply for your daughter. Don't get into a long explanation about how the baby will cry. Just say "baby sleeping" or something. Use the time the baby is sleeping and find something to distract your daughter. For my son we will give him his blocks, or paper and markers or he and I will read a book together. Or on the rare occasion I let him watch Blue's Clues or an Elmo DVD since he loves it so much. Hitting and repremanding will make the older child resent the baby. If you keep saying "NO.." and "Baby this" or "baby that" the child will begin to harbor negative feelings for the baby. Just relax and take it one day at a time. As both children get older they will understand each other and learn how to be around each other. It takes time that's all.

Good Luck!