I have a 21 month old daughter and was wondering when does everyone think its best to have the seconed child??

Question

i am only 21 almost 22 i have a 21 month old daughter im in a stable relationship i work part time partner works full time and we support ourselves without any help from anyone (b4 anyone says anything!!) just wondered wat people thort really when do u think is the best time to have the second child? we have enough money etc but just not sure wat a good age gap would be.

Answer 1

any gap is fine- as long as your body has recovered all that was lost during your last pregnancy.

however, if it was me, it'd wonder wh i wasn't getting married before having a second child!

cheers

Answer 2

I would (if it was me) wait until the older child was 4 or 5 (at school most of the day) so that he/she wouldn't feel left out and jealous as they would be out all day so you could focus on the baby and then when they come in you would have all night (most of it anyway) to focus on him/her

But i think you know when the time is right and a age gap won' matter really (:

Answer 3

I think that an age gap of 2.5-4 years is best

Answer 4

there was 21 months before i got pregnant with my son.

there is two and a half year difference between them

Answer 5

i was 2.5 when my younger brother was born

Answer 6

Where is the marriage proposal? You definitely should fully commit to each other before you have his second child!

Answer 7

now

Answer 8

Aaw some people are being mean to you about being married first aren't they. I don't think it's necessary that you should get married before having more kids, it's both your choice.  

Anyway that's not your question: my answer would be anytime you feel it's right my love. There's four years between me and my brother - my mum wishes she hadn't waited quite that long, but then she was ten years older than you are now.

Well done to you and your fella for supporting yourselves :)

Answer 9

If you are ready you should be perfectly fine to have another child. most doctors recommend to wait until 16 months since your last child.  

Answer 10

As soon as you can because children born to under 28 women tends to be healthy and intellectually very capable.  On the other hand, supporting them poses another problem.  

Good luck and if you need any assistance towards this then don't hesitate to contact me.

Answer 11

My first four children are 23 months apart, and my 5th will be 19 months from the 4th.  I like the spacing of 2 years or less.  Older one is less established in being the little one than if they are older.

Answer 12

No more than three years between the children. If you are as stable as you say, I say go for it now. :) Congrats and good luck! :)  

Answer 13

I have a 16 month old and we are waiting until she is potty trained to try for another baby.

It's really up to you, it can vary so much. Do what is good for your family.

Answer 14

I always said that I wanted 2 kids too....and for one of them to be out of diapers and potty trained before the other came along.  

Answer 15

We have 3 children & the age gaps are as follows:

between 1st & 2nd child it was 25 months & between the 2nd & 3rd child it was almost 4 years.  To be honest both were good age gaps.  If you got pregnant soon you would have an almost 3 year age gap & I think that would be perfectly fine.

Answer 16

As long as you are both ready and your body is ready. Any time is a great time. My parents had 3 kids we were 22 months apart. Oldest born 69, 71, 73. I loved it, we are all very close. Best wishes to you and good luck.

Answer 17

my son is about to be three and I think it would be nice if he had like a 6 month old around. I am currently pregnant so they won't be too far apart but I say when you child turns 2 would be a good time. that way by the time there 3 they have someone else to play with.  

Answer 18

i would start trying now,  cause the sooner the better

i am an only child

my mum tried for a baby when i wsa nearly 2 got pregnant but lost the baby and she said to my dad either try for another baby now

or not at all so guess what he chose

but if your not ready just yet then wait

but if  your ready go for it :)