I have a 31/2year old boy who has absolutely no interest in potty training, I need help.?

Question

I have tried playing potty games, encouraging him with treats, stickers or new toys, I have treatened to take his favorite toys away, I am at my witts end. He couldv'e started preschool in January, but he has to be potty trained. I feel as if he's missing out on life after daycare.

Answer 1

The experience that I have had with my own children and many that I helped in preschoolis they will decide on their own to potty in the toilet or potty chair. I have had three, four and even five year olds who wore a diaper or pull up to school. Most were out of them after a month of preschool. One reason was they saw the other children go. Another they were asked by their class friends why they still wore diapers.  Also when they would wet themselves or even messed their diaper I would have them take their own clothes off ( with as much help as they needed from me) and put them in a plastic bag. They also had to clean themselves off and put their dry clothes on. Naturally I made sure they didn't get dirty from doing this and I helped but let them think they did it all themselves. During the time they would be changing their clothes they might miss playground, a craft time, a story time etc. That was a good incentive, they didn't like missing these times. I also encouraged the parents to send extra clothes and use undies and not pull ups nor diapers. Unfortunately it is not always possible that all preschools will help with this. Good luck and stay calm. There have been some good suggestions to try.

Answer 2

I had a similar sort of problem with my son when young and realised he didnt want to use potty at all but wanted to use bathroom "like a big boy" I bought "his special" pants (just ordinary ones with his favourite character) and told him to try to keep them nice so he would always look good. It did help. Every child is different so its just trial and error till you find what works with your son.   Good Luck

Answer 3

I had a friend that had the same problem, she tried all the games, read all the books on it and all of that kind of stuff. anyways she finally just stopped buying diapers and just put underwear on him but he stilled wet his pants so she stopped putting anything on his bottom, no pants, no underwear (of course when it was just them at home) and it worked. He said when he had to use the bathroom, the first night he had an accident when sleeping but that was the last time. The thing was we knew he could go in the toilet if he wanted to but he didn't want to or have to because he had diapers on. He would never say when he had to go and if she told him to try to use it he never wanted to because he wanted to keep playing or do whatever it was he was doing because he had a diaper on so he was probably thinking why should he stop doing what he was doing when he could keep doing what he wanted to and go in his diaper or pull ups.

Good Luck. I hope these answers help!

Answer 4

First of all calm down.  Second try the old trick with Cheerios in the comode see if he can sink them when he pees.  Next try the singing comode.  When he uses it it plays music.  Send him to his own potty chair when u or father goes. Encourage him.  Not discourage.  2  is very young to  send to preschool.  Spend all the time u can with him they grow so fast.  Then they don't want to spend time with ya.  They just want to leave.

Answer 5

I feel your pain!  My 3 1/2 year old just started to use the potty.  I wish I could tell you some miraculous thing I did to get him to go, but the truth is he just decided on his own.  I fought with him for 6 months and then one day out of the blue, he just started going.  So, my only advice is to give him time.  I did all the same tricks you tried and came to the conclusion that some kids just need more time than others. Don't get discouraged it will happen eventually.

Answer 6

I've been there.  He probably just needs more time.  You are only making things worse by punishing him and making him feel anxious about it.

What finally worked with my three year old was putting him in underwear rather than a diaper.  He knew when he was wet.  He didn't like it much.  So, he'd go change his clothes.

I took his pants and underwear out of his drawer and put them in a basket in the laundry room.  Of course when he wet himself he went looking for dry clothes.  Sorry, I told him, they are in the laundry and since I can't wash clothes today you'll have to stay in the house. You can't play outside without clothes.  The next day I put one pair of pants and one pair of underwear in his drawer.  I told him.   "Don't forget I'm not washing clothes today so if you want to go outside you'll have to pp in the potty."   He did from then on.

As for pre-school in January, I wouldn't worry about it.  He's not missing out in life...I promise you that.

But, if he likes going to school that might be your ticket.  I've had more than one child in my class who potty trained themselves the first week of school because they saw the other children using the bathroom.  It's a big deal in preschool to be able to go to the bathroom and wipe your own butt.

Fortunately the pre-school program I ran helped parents with potty training.  (Truth is the kids did it themselves).

Answer 7

leave his pamper off all day buy his favorite cartoon character undees put them on if he makes a mistake say ooo noo you got him all wet he's gonna be sad (character)and say the undees are happy when he goes potty!