I have a 4 year old who is completely obsessed with his new little sister! How do I deal with this??

Question

My son is 4 and pretty much the sweetest boy in the world. His little sister was born on 6/6 and he loves her so much! Almost too much, lol. He constantly needs to know where she is and kiss and hug her. It gets to the point where she now tries to dodge him when he comes in for a kiss...he prolly kisses her a couple hundred times a day...no exaggeration. And of course I love that he loves her but hes getting more brave every day with her! Last week she was taking a nap in her crib and he snuck in there and actually took her out of her crib! He had to climb up there and back down...really freaked me out! Then today he lifted her out of her boppy. Its almost like he always wants her awake, he is constantly kissing and hugging her while shes trying to sleep, so she wakes up crying. I have tried everything. I dont know how to handle him without making him feel like hes not as important. I def dont want to make him jealous of his lil sister! Any help you can give would be much appreciated!

Answer 1

I would suggest that he is already jealous of her.

He wants to identify with her, be part of her life, so he can be part of all that love and attention.  He is not old enough to understand why she needs so much more care than he does.

I would suggest using the baby's nap time to do specially fun things with him that only a four-year-old can enjoy.  Reading special books, drawing pictures, learning how to write and read numbers and alphabet letters, learn about shapes, etc.

Keep him busy with these things, and then you will know where he is, and he will not be wanting to spend that time with her.  If he still wants to walk away from these activities to bother his baby sister, tell him she is a baby and has to sleep; he is a big boy who has important things to learn about while the baby is sleeping.

He will eventually outgrow this phase, and get used to her.  Until then... stay one step ahead of him so he can't get away with doing stuff like this behind your back.

Answer 2

child lock the door so when she sleeps he cant get in her room

Answer 3

hmmm that is a tough one you dont want him to feel jealous or left out I would just tell him she needs to sleep and explain why babies need alot of sleep and maybe pull him aside and watch a movie or talk and play with him it sounds like he might be kinda jelous try those and see if that works good luck.