I have a 9 year old and she has registered for a website where shes been talking to strangers,?

Question

It was called mydreamstables.co.uk and these so called 13 year old boys were asking her to talk dirty to them. Does anyone know of any software i can use to stop this or police it in some way.

Answer 1

Try Net Nanny or use your ISP's parental control to block access.

As for the other negative comments on this question, you sad lot. Here is someone asking for help and you go and have a dig.

It is not easy to sit there and monitor these sites all the time, some of us have dinner to cook or other things to do around the house.

(added 2nd November)

Hi just wanted to add that if she ever comes across a site called Runescape. don't let on on it. It's an online fantasy role play game but when my 14yr old daughter was playing it, she was being asked lots of personal questions regarding boyfriends, s*x, etc. I was tempted to arrange a meeting between one of these pervs but instead of my daughter going along it would have been me and a baseball bat.

Answer 2

There's a lot of software available. Do a search and INSTALL it! What was the purpose of her using the PC anyway? It's true you need to monitor her much more closely - nothing else works as well. Really, would you let her go knocking on strangers' doors on her own too? It's the virtual equivalent. Sorry to say. Get her some books.

Answer 3

I have the same concern with my children, although i have not come across any issues or concerns yet!

I do monitor them closely, which I am sure you do with yours but I think we have to allow our children access to the internet as it is a learning curve and it is the future for our children!

If this was me, I would report the problems to the website and the police, how can anyone be sure the true age of anyone on the internet?

I would not allow my daughter to use the site again and I would warn other parents, maybe through the press, my local news is always asking for news stories and this would make a good report, maybe they could investergate it for you? it is a great method of information giving.

My children, at 6, 7 and 9 bring home laptops from school, but I refuse to link them to the internet at home, just as a precaution.

I do not know of any software that you could install, but I will be watching this question for an answer, definatly a possibility for my peace of mind!

Answer 4

quite honestly wtf are you allowing a nine year old the internet for without disabling access to certain sites IMO you only have yourself to blame it is to late to put bolts on the stable door when the horse as gone

Answer 5

I cannot believe how horrible all these people have been!  Do they read the library books their children bring home to make sure there are no rude words? Do they preview every film or TV programme for violence and inappropriate language?  You spotted this problem because you do monitor your daughter.  If people want to get mad at somebody then they should be mad at the perverts who attempted to take advantage of your daughter, they are the ones who did wrong!  

No help at all, sorry!  I read this thinking I might get some tips for myself as my daughter is 6 and still just uses the cbeebies site for games.  She is very good at using the computers at school and I am sure she will be bringing a laptop home fairly soon to do homework assignments on.  

Good luck

Answer 6

how about not letting your child go online there is absolutely no reason for it if she needs info for homework tell her to look it up in the encyclopedia like we had to do

Answer 7

OK, seriously.  What these other people said is not very realistic.  Everything is on the internet, homework assignments, etc.  You just have to teach her the right way to use it.  If you make it a bad thing, then she will only want to be on it more.  Take it from a teacher, they will find a way to get on the internet.  There are filters you can put up, and putting the computer in a busily traveled area of the house like the kitchen will help.  Also, you can check the history and see each website she has been to.  I would check with the local police as far as what you can do about the "supposed" 13 year olds doing that online.

Answer 8

Im not judging you but my daughter is 9 next month and she doesnt use the internet. Please inform the police for your daughters safety and before she thinks that they can do no harm.

Answer 9

too late now. you can use many parental guided on the Internet to prevent this

Answer 10

Clare if your in the USA call your local sheriff or police dept to report the site. Many have task force that specialize in cyber crime including luring kids to sites.  

And don't pay attention to the Moran's who criticized u for asking for help & direction.  We don't know what u have or haven't done and don't have the right to criticize.  Google should provide lots of software but so should local isp provider can make recommendations.

Cyber patrol software is the one that comes to mind. Also cyber angels is another site.  They have lots of info and recommendations.  It wouldn't be a bad idea to either speak to your daughter and or have someone who is very knowlegable about cyber crime talk with her.  

Her registering means that she had access to your credit card or pertainant information to make an account and validate it.  There is software that someone who is computer savvy can gleam info off of your hard drive to see if she has done this before.  Most kids fib about their age online.

Answer 11

bad bad mother, why the h**l you have to ask this question, bloody comp should of been chucked in the bin. and you along with her.

Answer 12

Maybe you could delete her account and find her something else that she could do on there... Some thing like yahooligans or some kind of games that would keep her busy so she would not have time to think about talking to people... Hope I was a Help! I'm sure there is some kind of spyware you can get to see the msgs that could mean something bad.. It is like a program and it picks of stuff that (could) means something bad.. It don't always mean bad stuff but it is to be safe.. bcause sometimes it may...

Answer 13

What I think you should do is that you should ban her from it. Like not letting her use it. Um..i think this is the name of the software : iProtect You. if u find it, download it and and wat it does is u have to like list websites and then u assign the iProtect You with a PASSWORD. and give it a really hard password so your daughter can't hack in to it. and then u can find some safer sites or you can spend some time with her and do some fun stuff. i hope this helped! :)

Answer 14

call your local police department and see if they have a department that deals with stuff like this.  If they do, they probably would like to know about this web site.  This may be more than 9 years old.

Now you need to watch what your child does on the internet.  I suggest that you buy her some games that are for her age.  Barbie has a horse game.

You also may need to sit down and find some web sites for her and put them on her favorites so that she can just go to them.  

Then I would check every now and then and make sure that she stays where she is suspose to be.

Good luck

Answer 15

Here's good information from the FBI on this.  

http://www.fbi.gov/publications/pguide/p...

Programs like NetNanny, etc. protect you from certain things.  But I don't know about chat room programs overall...I'm ignorant of them.  I would talk to your daughter about the importance of staying completely anonymous.  Someone can still go into a chat room and talk about a subject they are interested in without giving away ANY private information.

By any, I mean any.  Don't mention what state she is in, have her develop a fake name for online use (that's a good tip...a lot of people can find out information simply from a person's name.  Never know how they can dig up information from a newspaper article 5 years ago or, when she's old enough, her traffic violation).

Just found another great article on the subject:

http://reviews.cnet.com/4520-11344_7-642...

Good job on being the parent in this situation and monitoring her activities.  Strange that people accuse you of not monitoring it when you noticed it and are seeking advice on how to stop it.  *shrug*  I don't get some people.

Matt

Answer 16

I dontt think thats a safe website maybey tell her to get off that website or contact the sites owner and tell them your problems

But they are many other websites that your daughter could be on such as...

http://www.millsbery.com

http://www.stardoll.com

http://www.skybrezzegames.com

http://www.myscene.com

http://askbobrankin.com/websites_for_kid...

http://www.myscene.com

http://www.barbie.com

htttp://www.bratzpack.com

Good Luck

Answer 17

how about monitoring your daugter a bit more closely? switch the computer off and spend some time with her!!

Answer 18

How about not letting her have access to the computer in the forst place. there are plenty of things for a nine year old to do with out sitting at a computer.

Answer 19

Why not have a talk with your daughter?  You could explain in simple terms the dangers of these sites.

Be gentle but firm.  Tell her if she wants to register on a site, to ask you first.  Otherwise the computer gets ditched.

Answer 20

More like peadophiles not 13 year old boys.