I have a BF that is obsessed with p**n and will not stop it. How do i get him to stop? What does this mean?

Question

When i walk in the room he is online watching it. We are sexually active but i feel as if i am not good enough!!

Answer 1

of course your good enough , when he has s*x with you he is living what he was watching out with you , the different females and all , better find a way to get him away from it , therapy may help .

Answer 2

Masterbating maybe?

Answer 3

Every guy watches p**n. there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Stop stressing.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

If ur in a relationship u shouldent watch p**n so say stop watchin p**n or im out cus hes pretty much lookin at other wemon and thats wrong i am a strong beliver that if u have a girl DNT look at others if he likes u enough h**l stop it if not he oveiously dosent like u

Answer 5

Talk to him bout it, tell him it makes u feel not good enough and if he loved u he would stop.  

Answer 6

Move on with your life. You can't compete with p**n. He would rather watch p**n than be with you and you know it. You won't get him to stop. He will just be more sneaky. Just go. You deserve a boyfriend that doesn't watch p**n. You deserve a boyfriend that will love and respect you. You are right you aren't good enough....that is the whole point.You can't compete with the p**n star.

Answer 7

Aww Sweetie,

Have you talked to him about your feelings? If not maybe you should try! Just cause he's watching p**n dont mean your not good enough! Dont think that! Talk to him first and find out whats going on..

Good luck....

Answer 8

ask to watch the p**n with him or, if he refuses, check out the kind of p**n that interests him when he's not in the room.

watching the p**n will give you insight about what he likes, what he fantasizes about. it may give you ideas for things you can try together.

watching it together may get you both in the mood. if he refuses to share, he may be embarrassed or defensive. assure him that you just want to get to know him better and spice up your love life.

and don't worry about being good enough. you are. the reason he watches p**n is because he has fantasies that maybe you two are not acting out. so watch the p**n, then integrate those new ideas into your relationships.

besides, i'm sure you have fantasies too that you could share with him.

Answer 9

If he's THAT obsessed with it than he might actually have a problem you should sit him down and talk to him and find out why he's sooooo in love with it and if you cant get to him a psychiatrist is always a great way to go if you can get him there  

Answer 10

watching p**n is completely normal..if you want him to stop have s*x more. answer mine plz http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...  

Answer 11

Every guy watches p**n, it's not something you can stop him from doing.  That being said, he shouldn't be doing it in front of you, it's kind of rude.

Answer 12

talk to him about it. ask him if you aren't good enough (i'm sure he'll say no) just tell him that it bothers you and ask him if he at least won't do it as often, or when you're there

if you're there that's just kinda weird to me

but just tell him that it really bothers you and if he loves you then he'll at least cut it down

Answer 13

He's needs to see a therapist, and you might wanna try new s*x techniques on him.

Answer 14

u need to let him no it bothers you and tell him to stop if he doesnt threaten to leave thatll put him in line

Answer 15

you can install NetDog p**n Filter : http://www.netdogsoft.com on the computer, netdog blocks all p**n quitely and automatically in the background when your bf's on the computer.

Answer 16

You are right you will never be good enough so don't try to change him or stop him. He likes what he likes: either you accept him or you let him go. Life shouldn't be so complicated. You will find the right person if you learn when to take off.

Answer 17

He's a Nympho.

I say watch it with him.

You can get some good pointers from some of those movies & then try something new (different). You may have to take some yoga classes thought - lol

Seriously though he is watching it (a fantasy)-- you have HIM (in real life).

If you do not feel like your good enough then that is something YOU have to work out. but don't worry about the p**n -- at least he is still intimate with you.

If it gets to the point where he is ONLY watching p**n and/or buying hookers and that kind of thing, then you may have to decide to either find him some help and stay with him or bail out and find someone else that is more your pace.

btw - you say this is a BF (with benefits?) are you catching feelings & wanting a deeper commitment that is not being reciprocated? Maybe this is why you feel you are not good enough.  s*x should make you feel great physically AND mentally!

Answer 18

Please do not buy into the bullsh*t theory that all guys watch p**n. That is not true.

That being said, you can not necessarily get him to stop. It's clearly making you uncomfortable which is enough of a reason to give him a choice: either he stops watching p**n or you're gone. Obviously everything's not quite so cut and dry, but you get my point. Tell him that you're uncomfortable and feel like you aren't good enough on your own to make him happy.

You will quickly find out what he values more: you or the chance to be an obsessive p**n watcher. Remember that should you do this, there is a good chance he may pick the p**n over you simply because there are plenty of girls around who are just as into p**n as he appears to be.

Answer 19

there is nothing you can do unless he is willing to get help i have dealt with for yours and now he hides it.  

Answer 20

If you want him to stop. And if he;s willing, install a program on his computer called K9 Blue collar (google it). It is a free program that blocks all porno sights and it has an over ride controll but he will need the password that only you know. So it blocks porno and hopefully it'll help him stop.

FYI I do not endorce K9 or have any overship over the program, i am simply suggesting it (PHewph now i cant be sued)

Answer 21

p**n isnt an issue.

If he can live his life, and p**n doesnt interrupt his school, or anything, p**n isnt a problem.

if it does, he needs to seek help.

some guys like fantasies that they cant get from their gf for any given reason, so they watch p**n

Answer 22

talk to him about him! tell him that it bothers you that he watches p**n, or possibly watch it yourself and maybe he'll feel the same way and realize that what hes doing is disrespectful because it should make him jealous too. Good luck! and hope i helped

Answer 23

that's stupid he shouldn't be doing that, especially if you are doing it with him anyway. i'm addicted right now. but i don't want to be.

and i can't date. and i'm trying to stop, but anyway. that's dumb. i wouldn't even be with a guy if  he did that when he was dating you

Answer 24

Tell him to change his ways or you're out.

I know many guys who've had that problem. If he likes you enough, he'll stop.