I have a Social Anxiety Problem.?

Question

I have had a problem with social anxiety since the 10th grade and now I am in the 11th grade. I felt like my anxiety was getting worse. I am on medication but the doctor said it takes a month to kick in and I felt that since my anxiety was bad I didn't have a month to wait. Because I just cant stand being this way.

I have told my parents about it and they listen sometimes and that will be the last time they hear about it. I am not that open to my parents and I felt like I had no to talk too. So I went to my school guidance counselor. I told her about everything and then today I was nervous and I was dry heaving and so when it stopped I went to see her and told her about it. I really didn't want to go to class and she was telling me how she wanted to contact my mom next week and ask her if she could come down and just talk to her about me and it.

So I got home and told my mom about it and she got mad. She said it was none of the guidance counselors d**** business! Now my mom is nice and very sweet but she just got mad. I asked her if she was mad at me for talking to my guidance counselor and she said no, but I still think she is. Now I feel really bad because I didn't talk to my parents first. But I couldn't help it, I just didnt feel comfortable telling my parents how bad it was really getting.

So I am wondering if talking to the school guidance counselor was a wrong thing to do? I mean anyways most of the painful anxiety I get mostly happens when I am at school. It just got to where I couldnt handle it and I couldnt sit in class and be normal. I couldnt wait a month for my medicine to kick in.

So my mom is going to try and talk to her next week. But I told her that she should just talk to her. But I feel my mom is mad at me.

But I also feel that I let myself down because I went to the counselor instead of my parents. What do I do? Is what I did wrong?

Answer 1

you didn't do anything wrong. that's what a school guidance conselor is for it's in the job decription. there are also other people at school whose job it is to talk to students about stuff like that and consel them. your mom has her opinion about keeping it on a family level but that's commmon for parents to wonder about the schools interference in a childs life. right down to it, it's all about the welfare of the student. you didn't do anything wrong. sometimes it's hard talking to your parents because they know you so well. it's not a bad thing that you went to talk to someone else to get a different perspective and a more objective point of view

Answer 2

i dunno what to really say besides hang in there kid, i have the same freaking problem..

Answer 3

You did absolutely the right thing. Maybe now your parents will look at ways they can improve their communication with you and make you feel more comfortable when trying to talk to them about how you feel.

I don't think your Mom will be mad at you - I bet she is feeling upset cos she knows that maybe she has let you down.

Try not to worry so much. Give school & Mom time to have the meeting and I feel sure that all will be much improved after it.

One last thing. If communication improves after the meeting, which I feel it will (it can't do anything other than good) then maybe you won't have social anxiety so badly and will soon be off the meds.

Try to think positive. With very best wishes. UK