I have a bunch of questions about adoption?

Question

I am 30 years old. I live in Canada. I can't seem to get a girlfriend who wants to stay with me and have kids without draining my wallet. I was thinking about adopting because one of my cousins did it with great success. I would like to adopt a girl, preferably one that is an infant. I know that there obvious problems with that. I am a doctor, live in a nice apartment, have a very good income, and have a clean criminal record. How hard and expensive would it be for me to adopt a newborn or infant girl?

Answer 1

I'm adopted and i had the same questions as you when i was a little girl like how expensive was it to adopt me n stuff like that, my parents told me it took thousands and thousands of dollars to do so, i don't really know alot about adopting a child but if you want to find out more than visit a web site about adoption, that should give you plenty of information you need, best of luck! :)

Answer 2

You're a shrink who can't find a woman who doesn't use you....I think you might need to invest in some therapy, dude.

If you're mystified as to how find a woman who's NOT a gold digger, how can you expect to raise a child properly?

Adoption is not for you.

Answer 3

How much time would you have to devote to your little adoptee?  Being a doctor must be a pretty demanding career, lots of hours spent away from that nice apartment, who will be raising the child?

First, do some research into the issues that adopted children face.  While bringing home a baby might be all fun and happiness for you, the trauma and anxiety from separation from her mother will cause issues that last a lifetime.  Trust, self-esteem, attachment, forming healthy relationships, all of these things can be huge issues for an adoptee.

Not to mention being adopted by a single parent who may not have the time to devote to being there, how is this child going to learn to form the most basic of relationships when she is first separated from her mother at birth, then her (new) primary caregiver, you, her adoptive parent, is most likely going to either put her in daycare of leave her with a sitter?

It's not a very healthy start for an adoptee.

Being a doctor, I'm sure you could understand that.  I'm merely an environmentalist, and I get it, but then, I've lived it.