I have a child who bites in my day care...?

Question

He makes attempts at biting other children multiple times a day. Most of them are unsuccessful because I am able to intervene and pull him away, however he probably successfully bites at least once a week.

I fear the other parents are going to pull their children from my care because of this, therefore I'm going to tell this child's mother that if it continues to be an issue she is going to have to find alternate care.

What's the best way to tell her? I'm at a loss for words and want this to go as easily as possible.

Answer 1

That's a tough one because she will likely badmouth the daycare and be very up set and possibly write the BBB or Attorney General with complaints.  Weather or not the complaints are valid are another issue.

I would try to give the child something to bite when he is in his biting mood.  Try carrots, celery, a bagel, etc.  

Good Luck with anything that you do

Answer 2

you forgot to mention how old he is. cause at a certian age usually between ages 1 and 2 biting is a big problem i would give him time outs, and yes talk to his mom and tell her she needs to get him to stop biting as well.

Answer 3

I was the mother of the bitter! I was friendly with the child care director. She took me aside and explained EXACTLY what she was feeling. She told me the same thing you are expressing, that others may leave if this continues. TOGETHER we worked with my son. He was 18-2 years old while this was going on. To try and explain this to a child this small, I think is difficult. She would remove him from the situation (sort of time out) and I had to do the same thing at home. It did work. She also spoke to the parents of the other children in his room. Most of them were understanding because lets face it, it happens and there is nothing you can do sometimes. Also, the director had a policy, if the child bits 3 times in one day, he must leave for the rest of the day. It was hard to get that phone call about having to pick up my son for biting, but I think both of us realized this was not funny anymore. My son loved daycare and when he had to go home, he was sad. I would sit her down and explain your feelings. Being open is the best way. Let her know how difficult it is for you to be talking about this because finding good child care is tough. Maybe between the two of you, you can work something out like I did. GOOD LUCK! And tell the other mom biting finally does stop! :)

Answer 4

Totally agree with Frank

Or have the little suckers teeth pulled.

Answer 5

Give the little vampire some blood

Answer 6

Be honest and polite. Clearly state that the child has been trying to bite other children. He is successful at least once a week. You would like to know what she or her husband does to stop or curb this behavior. Tell her you will try her suggestion(s) but let her also know that he has 1 week to stop this behavior or you will be forced to ask her to take him elsewhere. Calmly and professionally.