I have a child with very sticky fingers and he wont stop i tried everything he's going too boot camp help!

Question

where and what can i do ?

Answer 1

You should talk to your local police dept.  Set something up so he 'gets caught'.  Then scare the living daylights out of him.  Even drive by a jail if that is possible.  Show him the barbed wire, the guards, etc.

You don't say how old your child is - that would help with getting a more solid answer.

Answer 2

How old is your son?  Is he young enough that "help me be good books" can help. I had to get them for my 3 year old neighbor girl. She use to take toys home with her all the time.

My friends daughter who was 7 also has sticky fingers and stole a cell phone at a b-day party I took her too. I was so embarrased. The Help me be good books helped her too!

Answer 3

Everytime he steals something, tell the victim he can choose anything he likes of your childs, and keep it, by way of an apology.

Answer 4

maybe you could take away all his treasured possessions - or let his siblings take them.  when he complains - then give him the lecture about how bad it makes people feel when someone takes what is not theirs.

good luck

Answer 5

I MEAN NOTHING BUT THE BEST. CALL THE COPS AND STOP IT SOONER THAN LATER.

Answer 6

What you should do depends on age, physical as well as mental, and of course, their mental development.  Sometimes sticky fingers are a symptom of other problems, sometimes just a sign that they need attention (not implying you don't give your child attention, they just crave more).  A good way to start at any age is to put the responsibility for returning the item on them, and having a discussion about right and wrong behaviors.  For example my 9 year old once took a game boy from a fellow student at school, he told us the boy let him borrow it.  Problem for us is that our child is very untrustworthy when it comes to "borrowing", and we have a strict no borrowing policy at our home with/without permission.  We found out that he had taken the toy from the other little boy and arranged for a return by having the mother of the other child bring him to our house where our son not only returned the item in question but had to apologize to the boy and his mother for taking it.  In the case of our son, after the incident and discussion he still felt he had done nothing wrong (he has been recently diagnosed with a mild form of autism) and felt we were being unfair.  If when you discuss the offense with your child and the cause and effect are not apparent to him it may be time for a counselor to step in.

Answer 7

Seriously just had a duh moment! I thought you meant he actually had sticky fingers and he wouldn't let you wipe them off. Okay anywho...to answer the question..have you every taken him to the person or store he  stole from and made him give it back and apologize. Sometimes that makes them feel bad enough to stop. Has the cops ever been called on him, if it has have you rescued him right away or let him sit there for awhile. That might work.  Other than that it sounds like you are trying your hardest and sometimes kids just don't get it. You might have to do the boot camp. Keep your head up! Good luck!

Answer 8

what??

Answer 9

every time you find out he took something take him right back to he store and make him tell what he did and pay for it with his own money AND give it back, if the store wont take his money make him pay you. but make im explain wat he did hopefully the public humuliation will end that right quick. also don't let him go ANYWHERE without you. it'll take some extra work on your part but i think it would work.

Answer 10

If he can't figure out how to show respect for other's & their belongings when he's on his own, you need to start supervising him 24/7, until he shows that he's learned enough to be trusted on his own again.  

Be sure he has constant supervision when in any situation where there are things that he can steal (i.e., anywhere besides his own bedroom).  Tell him that this is necessary because he's shown that he does not yet know how to make good decisions for himself, yet.  Start over, again, teaching him how to respect other people, as if he were a toddler.  As he learns each lesson & shows that he can be trusted to make good decisions, allow him a little more freedom, but continue to monitor him & bring him back a level, as needed.