I have a crush on this girl that goes to my church; how can I get to know her and maybe ask her out some time?

Question

I'm 14 (almost 15) and I'm going to be a freshman in high school this year. The girl that I like is 15 and is 1 grade higher than me. We don't go to the same school. I'm taller than her.

Anyways, she goes to my church (a rather big church) and she's in my youth group. I talk to her brother a lot and I know her dad pretty well since he's a teacher in the youth group.

She knows who I am. I've never really talked to her, though. I'm pretty sure that she doesn't have a BF and she comes from a real nice family. Her family and my family have been going to the same church ever since we were little. I've only recently started to notice how beautiful she is.

I'd like to get to know her and maybe ask her out some time, but the problem is, I'm the shyest boy on the face of the Earth, and I really have no idea how to start talking to her. I don't just want to go up all of a sudden and start talking to her. I think that might make me look kind of, well, you know, creepy...

I need some advice.

Answer 1

Well im a girl and it looks like u have really good morals. Good taste in girls. Your right, you do have to start talking to her. I think the best way is to get involved in what she is doing sometimes. If shes talking in a group of people, walk up to them and start talking. Since your friends with her brother, maybe hanging out with them both may put you at ease considering they are related and may be together, and you feel comfortable around him. once you start talking to her, don't come right out and tell her you like her, or have anyone else tell her because that will scare her and she won't have time to think because she won't want to lead you on by saying i don't know, and she wont' want to say yes without knowing you. just become her friend. then see where things go

Answer 2

idk if your catholic but i am so like when you shake hands with other people be in the row in front of her then go to shake her hand cause it would be like perfectly normal then look deeply into her eyes and like don't let goes of her hand like as if you are in a trance she will think its funny and romantic then you guys should just start talking!!!

Answer 3

ask her brother if she has a bf, and she if she is interested in you.

Answer 4

You sound like a really nice respectable guy.

If she doesn't see that in you, then she's not worth it.

Have some confidence.

And don't change who you are for a girl.  Continue to BE YOURSELF, as cliche as that sounds.  Just be comfortable with who you are.

CONFIDENCE and BEING COMFORTABLE is the number one thing I personally think is attractive in a guy.

A guy can have everything seem perfect about him.  But if he can't be himself, or be nice, or caring, or compassionate,  I say, see ya later!

As far as talking to her-- don't think about it too much.  Just let a conversation happen when it happens.  When the time is right, you'll know.  Just trust your gut!

Best of luck to you! :)

Answer 5

Well you said you're friends with her brother, so why don't you go over his house, that way you can be around and start to feel more comfortable. You could do whatever boys do but since she's there, it'll make it easier to start conversation. As things progress, think about going out on a "group date", where a bunch of friends go to the mall or movies. This will make you feel less tense and eventually, you won't feel nervous around her at all!

Good luck

*This is what i've told my brothers and it has seemed to work for them.

Answer 6

Wrong category.

Answer 7

Thumbs down for me if you want, but I must ask, why did you put this under Pregnancy & Parenting?  I maybe would answer your question otherwise.

Answer 8

Just say, "Hey!" and start talking to her a bit. Don't be too shy, but don't come on too strong. Then, eventually you'll build a friendship and then you can ask her. It'll take time!

I hope she likes you back. I waited too long for my Best friend who I've liked for years and now he has his first girlfriend!

;(

Best of luck!

Answer 9

well start by saying hi everytime you go to church like for a week and then one day go up to her and say hi i am ____<-(your name)

i allways say hi to you ..whats your name??

and she should tell u and then from their the next time u see her say hi __and her name... and then  stirr up a little conversation.. like nice weather.. you look nice today... try to compliment her but not too dramatic.. and then ask her do u have a boyfriend she will say no and then say so what would u say if i wanted to take you out? and she will say her answer her answer and then if she says ok say so whens a good time and their u go!!!