I have a dillema. I have job offer contingent upon good reference from current boss!

Question

I do not have issue about getting a good recommendation, I know I will get a good one...what I worry about is the lack of security from both sides (current & prospective employer) after notifying my boss to expect a call from prospective employer for a reference check. Knowing my boss, she would likely start planning my departure by asking when would me my last day, transitions, trainings etc... I do not think I can handle this because I really do not know when my last day would be and the feeling of insecurity after that "TALK". Please help, this is a first for me.

Answer 1

This happened to my husband. It was awkward at first, because he was hesitant to let his employer know he was leaving. But, in order to move forward in the interview process, his prospective employer had to contact his current one; in fact, they visited his workplace (he is in law enforcement).

It is definitely a risk, but if you really want the new job, you need to sit down with your present employer, as my husband did. You need to tell your boss you are in the running for another job, which requires that she provide a reference. Tell her you feel this new opportunity is an excellent one for you and explain that you are really appreciative for what you have learned from her.

You are going to have to ignore any gossip that may occur and just finish there with grace and professionalism.  They have to take the steps to replace you, but that does not mean you have to be uncomfortable. Just continue to do your job and leave on great terms.

Good luck!

Answer 2

If this is really that pivotal, I doubt they would have given you an opportunity to orchestrate a favorable response. They may have said it  to see how you would react. Still, it doesn't mean they won't make the call.

Tell her you are not certain of any dates because you want to ensure a smooth transition for both you and your replacement. Even if you need to volunteer a few evening or weekend hours to mentor your successor, she will appreciate it and the "consultant" title will enhance your resume. Good Luck.

Answer 3

It's definitely a risk you're going to have to take.  I've switched jobs a few times and was always just up front and honest with my boss.  If you're a good employee and the other job doesn't work out, they should be happy to be able to retain you.  On the other hand, they will probably appreciate knowing your plans.  It's better to be up front rather than hit her with a surprise - you'll end up burning less bridges that way.

Answer 4

Tell her what you just told us.  You don't know.  The job isn't yours YET.  If and when you are offered the job and you accept, that should give you plenty of time to set a date to start at the new job.

It doesn't matter if people talk but a good employer doesn't spread rumors of employees leaving or job hunting.