I have a family situation...we all are adults, BUT....?

Question

ok my mom has this car, she bought before she moved in with my well to do brother, she told me last summer to come get the car, so two days before i was supposed to get it, she called me and said the car wasn't ready..so ok, then three weeks later brother emailed me said it was ready and to come the end of july, then another two days later when gas prices started to rise, he sent me a nasty email, demanding i come immediately before mom dies, she isn't even sick..well this went back and forth all together four times, to come get the car don't come get it..blah blah...then he wrote me and said never mind we are keeping the car, but get your butt down here....i got there mom is fine..and its all bull...its been a few months, and i am getting over it.....but do you think i should confront them on it..as it stands i don't really have a relationship with my brother anymore, he is a control freak, and i think my mom is afraid of him...anyway does anyone have a situation like this, and how did you handle it...and whats your advice..please no stupid mean answers..thanks..

Answer 1

If the car title is in your mom's name then your brother really has no say in the situation unless your mom has given him power of attorney or is legally in his care.  If you feel your mom is being intimidated by your brother try and talk to her first alone and make sure she realizes that you really are trying to get past this problem.  Don't feel like you have to pretend nothing happened but give her the opportunity to let you know her side of things.  Since the car in question is/was hers it really should be between the 2 of you, but if you must include your brother in the discussion make sure he knows YOU aren't intimidated by his approach.  Maybe he's just stressed out with the new living situation.  

I've been in the same situation although it was M.I.L. and Sister-in-law... very awkward and uncomfortable.  Best of luck!!  Hang in there.  :o)

Answer 2

I think that you should go down there and confront your brother and mum and let them know how you are feeling they shouldnt of messed you around and if they arent mature enough to see what they did is wrong then maybe they are jealous of you and your lifestyle