I have a feeling i wont be able to have kids

Question

okay i know this may sound stupid but i have a gut feeling I'm not going be able to have kids.i don't know why but i just have that feeling.i love kids so much i want at least 2.my boyfriend is always telling me not to be ridiculous.he says i wont have a problem because my family just pops them out left and right.my periods are irregular and i usually get cramps down there and I'm not even on my period.and also, i don't want to gross anyone out but there has been a few times when he didn't pull out,well nothing happened,no baby.my friends tell me that it may not be me it could be my boyfriend but i have a feeling it is me.

i don't want to grow up and not be able to have my own kids.i want a part of me to live even after i die.

if you have any answers please tell me.

Answer 1

No one can give you answers except your doctor.

You may not have been ovulating when he didn't pull out. Your cramps have nothing to do with your ability to have children. Although you should check that with a gyno because it could have to do with polycystic fibrosis.

A part of you can live on through the difference you make in other areas of your life or through other children's lives through adoption.

I wouldn't worry about not having kids until you're actually ready to try for them. The worrying won't help you relax and relaxing will definitely help.

Answer 2

Having an irregular menstrual cycle and cramps doesn't necessarily mean you won't be able to have children. It may mean that you'll have to work at conceiving, maybe even needing to use fertility drugs. When the time comes and your ready (in the right position both financially and in your relationship) just speak to your GYN about your concerns. They'll do some basic blood tests and maybe and ultrasound to figure out if there are any issues that need to be addressed. Don't stress about this now, I don't have regular cycles whatso ever and conceived two pregnancies with help and one without.

Answer 3

If you can find the money for it there is way to have a child, technology has advanced so much that options are available to help you, maybe you should see your doctor about some birth control to stabilize your hormones and regularize your cycle. and if your at all religious just think that maybe the Higher being has not decided for you to conceive yet and he has a plan for you that may not involve you having a child maybe you're meant to thrust your maternal loving on some neglected unloved child in the future. if you're meant to be a mom you will be just eat right and stay healthy so you'll be ready when the time comes

Answer 4

You both should go ask a doctor. They have tests they can run to see. I forget the name of the tests though, haha. Sorry I just hang around the homepage and read interesting sounding questions. I think your doctor would know what to do if you asked how to tell if you can have kids. Also you can't have kids every time. Sometimes it doesn't work....

Answer 5

I had the same worries, I had irregular periods, super crampiness and the worst PMS you've ever seen, my periods would last 7-10 days and were really heavy, any and all birth control, i've tried has made me either bleed the whole month, breakout in a rash, become super hormonal and moody or become very depressed i've tried at least 6 types/brands.

My husband and i began having s*x when i was 14 i was not on b/c and he did not pull out....i never became pregnant. then the docs recommended b/c due to high irregularity and heavy bleeding. finally after the birth control issues i stopped this is after about 3 years of trying new/different ones. I was off birth control for over a year and a half having s*x almost daily when i finally became pregnant.

now, i am 22 my oldest daughter is 13 months and I am expecting my second daughter in december.

I hope all works out for you and that you have as many children as you want. good luck.

Answer 6

The chances of you getting pregnant are slight even if he does pull out. A woman can only get pregnant about 4 days out of a month so him not pulling out a few times might have not hit those days. How old are you? If he's just your boyfriend, I wouldn't advice having kids right now anyway. I'm sure you're fine. A lot of women have irregular periods nowadays! In fact, that's one of the reasons why women use birth control; to regulate their flow cycle. Gut feelings aren't always right. Sometimes, they feel so right just because you're so paranoid. Also, by the way, stress (such as worrying whether you are fertile or not) can lead to irregular periods and cramps!

If you're this worried about it and truly feel as if you're fear is justified, I suggest you go to a doctor and he/she can run some test. :) Try to not freak out too much. I'm sure you'll be okay and have kids in the future.

Answer 7

maybe you have PCOS