I have a few questions about a new pregnancy. i am a first at this. ?

Question

Ok, i am a father to be i am 19 years old. I have been with this girl for a month. We both decided it would be best if we went thro with it. She is 27 We both have money so that is no issue. I am just asking for help. Are there any good books i can read to get familiar with some things. Also what is a good way to break this to my parents. My mom i know will be happy, but my dad on the other hand will be a diff. story.

Answer 1

Well first I want to point out how great it is that you want to be this involved and knowledgable about the pregnancy and everything with it. There is a book What to expect when your expecting and they also have a great website which is what I use that will send you emails everday telling you something new about the pregnancy. As far as your parents go just tell them you are an adult now, and if you father is upset about it he will get over eventually and be happy. Good luck with everything.

Answer 2

deffinatly try indigo/chapters/coles.. etc..

Also trying going to an ordinary baby store sometimes they sell books about expects and parenthood. Its exciting.

If you have ANY questions email me anytime. [e-mail]

Ive been around kids my whole life, really really big family.. and im training to be a Gynocologist.

Good Luck and Congrats!

Answer 3

I would recommend telling them straight up before you wait too long.  

Answer 4

no you are not. I'am a female i had a hard time telling my mom and i 32 . I'am pregnant again. its bettet to go ahead and tell them now, don't wait anymore. trust me  

Answer 5

Most parents are never prepared for this, but it does come along.  They might be happy or upset, but either way, it's a good idea to tell them and not hide it.  Maybe your father might not like it at first, but he should cool down, I would think, I don't know him of course.

What we did as a new couple is find a pregnancy clinic in town, was the best resource we found as they are usually free and have literature of all kinds for both parents.

Answer 6

you can read ...What to expect while expecting....also you can go to the book store and go to the pregnancy section and they have book for soon to be fathers good luck hope this helped!

Answer 7

Awwwww.  Congratulations.   BE a good daddy.  Help her out as much as you can through the pregnancy.

Be prepared.  She will become VERY hormonal and stressed out at times.  Just go with the flow and remember it's the pregnancy that's causing these mood swings.  When she has a certain craving. . . please go and get it for her.  Be there for her!  :)

Answer 8

Aww!  You're such a great guy to be so interested in what's going on with the pregnancy and the baby.  "New Father Book: What Every New Father Needs to Know to Be a Good Dad" is my personal favorite.  Also, there's a book called "Dad's Survival Guide" which is another awesome book.  "What to Expect When You're Expecting" is targeted at the female audience, but it is pretty good for a man to read so that he understands what's going on with the mother-to-be.

Answer 9

i bought this book for my husband when i was preg. with our first- caveman's guide to pregnancy, it breaks it all down for a man to understand.  Just tell your parents, they might get mad and say a lot of blah blah, but they'll get over it. oh ya, babies arent all about money. good luck!

Answer 10

hey there i also am 19 and i became a mum at the beginning of the year. Don't know of any books, im afraid.

Perhaps you could write a letter to your mum and dad explaining your situation? and be with them while they read it. i find that sometimes it is easier to say it in writing and your parents may be able to digest the info a bit easier.

good luck whatever you decide to do

Answer 11

what to expect when you're expecting has a section for dads in there also. and there are tons of books for fathers just go to your local book store and look around the parenting section for them.  

Answer 12

There's no "easy" way to tell your parents, you just have to come out with it.  Being that you're 19 and have your own money might help a bit (you're an adult with an income, so they won't be expected to support a baby, that's good news!)  My husband read "What to Expect When Your Wife is Expanding" by Thomas Hill.  It's a great book packed full of information about what your woman will be going through with a ton of humor to keep you interested!  (highly recommend it!)  He also read "The Expectant Father" by Armin Brott & Jennifer Ash.  I had a copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting" by Heidi Murkoff.  There is a father's section in there which he also said helped.

Good luck to you and I applaud your decision to support your pregnant girlfriend and be a stand up dad!  Good for you!

Answer 13

In todays age, many, if not all the questions you may have on pregnancies, what a father can do to help, what to look forward to, etc. can on be found on the internet.  But if you really want a book, i wouldnt waste my money trying to find the right book to purchase because most of them will say the same thing.  Just go to the library and rent a book or a few, and go with the one thats easiest for you to follow.  

As far as breaking it to your parents, go ahead and tell your mom first, and when your ready to tell your dad, have you mom with you to back you.  Its sometimes easier when its 2 against one, regardless of his reaction.  Its not like he can change what has already taken place.  And once the baby is here, i'm sure he will love him/her.  If not, then go on and be the father you want you child to have...dont let any1, including your father, deter you from that.

Congratulations, and best of wishes to you.  

Answer 14

Their are a lot of books you can read most popular one is what to expect when your expecting you can go to pretty much any book store and find tons. Their are also a lot of parenting websites that you can go to to find out everything you can possibly need to know. And as far as telling your parents just come out with it and your dad probably wont be happy for awhile but he'll come around just wait.

Answer 15

The best thing to do is to just come right out with it and tell them sooner rather than later. I got pregnant at 19 and of course neither of my parents were very happy in the beginning. My boyfriend's (who is now my husband) parents on the otherhand, were thrilled. Check out "What to Expect When You're Expecting" and and "The Expectant Father" Both are pretty good reads and pretty informative. Your girlfriend will probably be more interested in reading the first one though. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 16

there's a lot of books out there for expecting dads, i'm sorry i can't give you an exact title but google it or amazon i'm sure has a ton. talk to your parents asap!! your dad might be more supportive than you think,remember he was a new dad once to and he might have some great insight for you or talk to your girlfriends dad if that's possible. but your mom will be a great support to.

i commend you for taking care of your responsibility, children are such a blessing and just taking the time to ask for help is a good sign. Good Luck and congratulations!

Answer 17

First of all congratulations *!*

And that's so great that your wanting to learn, buy your girlfriend the book "What to expect when your expecting" it is fantastic!! They also have a part in there for new dads to be, or they even have a book out for dad's.

I am 8 months preg and found this book great. Good luck with your folks, all the best

Australia x

Answer 18

There is a book called What to expect when your expecting. There is also a magazine type book called Stages of Birth that gives a brief preview of the gestational process..It's really good. Maybe look up on the internet  pregnancy books for fathers...Babies are a blessings,no matter if it wasn't planned..Your dad will come around, especially once the baby gets here, they always do..Good luck.

Answer 19

my cousin is in this same predicament. however they are both twenty. anyway, just tell your parents whats the worst they can do besides yell at you. theyll get over it one day. im not sure about books for your exact situation but any good baby book would help even a little. btw congratulations

Answer 20

there is a book out there called "What to expect when you are expecting" it explains everything you want to know. it cost between 13-15 dollars at a local wal-mart.

Answer 21

well, to start, when you break the news, make sure you tell them that you are sure this is what you want to do and your an adult.

you can pretty much get information from anything, the internet, parenting books, and you can even ask the doctor at appointments.

when your baby is born, it will mostly be a learning experience for all 3 of you, but, books and advice will help out alot. i think you can buy books about what your baby is doing month by month and what its like to be that age, etc;. the books that i used are called 'Healthy Start, Grow Smart' if you can find those books, they will help you out alot, they helped me. hope i answered your question. and dont be afraid to break tha news to your father. just remember that this is what you want to do.

good luck