I have a fiance and other girl

Question

I have a fiance now of 5 years and we are set to get married in 2 years, lately we've run in to a few problem thats causing us to repeatedly fight over and over, However there is a another older girl who I work with who we seem to hit it off great and we like being with each other, what should I do?

Answer 1

you have been engaged for 5 years?  And you are going to be engaged for another 2 years?  What are you waiting for?  It doesn't sound to me like you plan on ever getting married.  And you are thinking about cheating on top of that? let this girl go.  she deserves better.  

Answer 2

Every farmer rotates his crops.

Answer 3

You need to do your fiance a favor and end the relationship with her before she starts spending a lot of money on wedding preparations. It sounds like you are really not ready to commit to a marriage.  

Answer 4

You should break it off with your fiance, she deserves better than someone that behaves like a dirtbag.

Answer 5

Let your fiance go. You haven't even married and your already thinking about cheating. No one deserves that

Answer 6

You have been engaged for five years and aren't getting married for two more years.  You are really rushing things.  LOL  If you love each other you shouldn't be fighting so much.  You aren't even married yet.  If you like being with this girl who you work with then you need to decide who you like more.  You can't string two girls along.  If you want your fiance more then you need to back off with this girl at work and tell your coworker why.  If you think you like your coworker more than you need to call it off with your fiance.

Answer 7

Hey man, I am also engaged so I kind of get what you are saying. I would say that you need to talk to your fiancee and find that missing piece.

Marriage is a big commitment and sometimes we get scared. Perhaps you are worried that things will get worse and you will be trapped in a unhappy marriage? That the girl you proposed to is not the girl that you will marry? I don't know. But know that who your fiancee was when you proposed will more than likely be the person you marry. Don't judge a lifetime by the past 4 months. You have to talk to her and express your fears and concerns. She is more than likely to listen and try to do whatever she can to meet that need.

As well, do not try building a r/ship with another girl. It will effect your perception of your r/ship with your fiancee.

5 years is a long time. You guys have built a life with each other. don't just through that away without a fight.

good luck

Answer 8

i think that you should decide who you want to be with

make up your mind and pick one

that ring that you gave to your fiance is a symbol that you

love her, you want to be with her and your going to spend your

life with her. I think that you shouldd gett yourr **** stright and

decidde what you want.

Answer 9

Let your Fiance go dude. Dont be a Pig. Break up with her before you seriously hurt her.

Answer 10

If you are allowing yourself to get close to someone else you aren't happy.  Break off anything before you get any closer!  

Answer 11

If you haven't gained her trust by now you never will.

Answer 12

if you are already thinking about someone else, you should end it with your fiance. Do it before your families spend a lot of money on planning the wedding! Sounds like you won't be happy with her if you aren't even married and thinking about being with this other girl.

However, if you are on the fence about it, and still love your fiance, then iwould talk to her about it. Planning a wedding can make you b*tchy and stressed and not really seem like yourself. I'd talk to your fiance and see what happens. (dont tell her aabout this girl at work!). 5 years is a long time and I'm sure you both love each other a lot. If so, don't leave at the first sign of stress or bad times. That is something to remember once you get married to. Its for better or worse. Has she been naggy all 5 years or just since the engagement.  Follow your heart.

If you really want to be with this other girl, thenyou must end it with the fiance now. Otherwise, stop talking and flurting iwth the friend at work. She can really alter how you  view your relationshiip. There are always going to be people that might be able to stray your heart away... but you have to realize it and not put yourself in the situation were you might cheat.

Sorry, my advice is depending on how your heart feels. Can't give you an exact answer without knowing all the details you and your fiance know.

Good luck

Answer 13

There are ALWAYS 2 sides to every story. You may not think you've done anything to make her switch it up like that, but anytime there is a rift (or in marriages a divorce) both parties always are partially to blame! It may be one more than another in some cases, but always both bear some of the blame. Now, in your case, you have to accept responsibility for some part of it and decide if you are really ready for marriage or not. If you are ready to look elsewhere when things get a little rough instead of maybe changing your behavior for the better to try and do your part to help your relationship even when she seems to be tripping... you will never make it in a marriage! You'll be ready to walk out the door at the first sign of difficulty. Now consider this: if you do marry this girl and possibily bring kids into the picture, then decide its time for you to walk out, you're hurting innocent little ones!

I'd say leave both women alone and work on yourself then, find someone that is right for you when you're ready to be a MAN!